Monika: Today it is my pleasure and honour to interview Antonia Stevens, an Icelandic-born transgender woman from Canada. Hello Antonia!
|Prototyping custom ergonomic keyboard.|
As to the legal system it’s pretty good but we need to improve it a bit, currently the transgender discrimination laws have not been passed on a national level but only by a couple of provinces, we’re working on it though.
When it comes to GRS surgery it’s covered by the health care system even if the waitlists are long, HRT can be started using informed consent and name/gender marker changes don’t require any surgeries or other such nonsense in most places.
|Fully functional ErgoDox ergonomic keyboard with Gelatin|
Kristin Beck is another woman that is breaking down barriers and I also really respect Lana Wachowski a lot. There are so many people in this community that I admire that I could probably write a list with a hundred names but I think those are the ones that stand out for me.
Monika: What was the hardest thing about your coming out?
Antonia: Telling my partner that things needed to change and that it might break our relationship. Explaining to someone that you love and loves you back that you have to do something which will hurt them and might very well end your relationship is not something I would wish on anyone.
Many in our community have amazing backgrounds and are brave, selfless and caring. I want people to see our community as I’ve come to know it, exceptional talented people filled with kindness and love.
|My dear friend Alicia and I having some|
fun at El Convento Rico.
We are different from the LGB but many of our agendas are common and it makes sense from a logistical point to work together even if sometimes we step on each other’s toes.
In Iceland Anna Kristjansdottir has worked tirelessly for many years. Unfortunately I don’t know of any trans politicians but this could surely change in the coming years.
Personally I think my time and efforts are best spent educating people so I try to represent the community as best I can to gather allies and supporters. I think transgender women can make a huge difference and a very positive impact on politics.
We have a unique perspective across the gender gap and into minorities, we also know the healthcare system pretty well and unlike many other people that never met anyone outside their social circles we get to meet trans people from all walks of life, listen to their story and understand what other people’s lives are like.
|Plain me heading out to the monthly Queer|
Slow Dance here in Toronto.
For business meetings something bit more formal, nice woolen dress with a cardigan, a power dress or a nice skirt and blouse. For a night out with the girls a nice dress, length depends on the venue.
As a practical girl black always works and is low maintenance, for something a bit more special white, red, blue, primary colours are my thing. I also love asymmetry so dresses with one shoulder strap, or patterns are a favorite of mine.
Personally I don’t think I would ever sign up for one of these pageants but to each their own.
I’ve only been in love once in my life but I think love is one of those things that the harder people look and the more they are in love with the idea of being in love the less likely they are to find it.
I hope to love again in my life but I’ll just keep on doing my thing because I think when you do what you like and have fun you also maximize the chances of meeting someone you like and likes you.
|Xpressions Christmas Gala with my|
friends Luna Maria (right) & Arden (left).
I also designed a new keyboard layout to allow me to type in any language with a Latin based character set because I got fed up with switching when I write in multiple languages.
Other than that just open source software, the kind of things that get incorporated into every day software we all use but you never see, I dabble in everything but most of my current projects can be found on my Github account.
One day I’ll get back to my boat and but for now the most important project is myself, being happy and enjoying life.
|What happens when you get the idea to build a sailboat and|
sail around the world, you build one and the tools to make it.
There is no silver bullet, we are all different and gender is not black and white, from my perspective it’s mostly grey.
For some of us the path is transitioning, for some it’s GRS but others choose to live in their assigned gender, yet others identify as non-binary or their gender fluctuates.
Find your own path to happiness.