Interview with Crista Lynn - Part 2


Monika: Could you tell me about the importance of love in your life?
Crista: Oh god, here it comes. Love? Love can be such a wonderful curse. Trans or not, everyone deserves the right to be miserable and in love. There was a time when I was young that I was dating everyone, (women) trying to find the perfect one. Then after coming out, my therapist said that I was just dating like such, to find what I wanted in myself, in other people, before realizing that what I was looking for was not in others, but in myself, and that’s why I couldn’t find the right person.
Now, in my current state, sure, it’s hella easier to date, because women get hit on all the time, and thus more opportunities. I’ve been in love and slept around 1000 fold the number of people as a woman than as a man, and it’s all the same. I’m just out of a 4-year relationship, and in that weird, getting reacquainted with dating society phase, and then still sorta attached to that person, so I’m probably not the best person to ask about love at the moment.
But the importance of love? Sure. We all need to be loved, and having someone to cuddle next to at night is the best and most comfortable feeling we can achieve.

"I like comfortable clothes, clothes that make me
look sexy."

Monika: Do you like fashion? What kind of outfits do you usually wear? Any special fashion designs, colors, or trends?
Crista: I like comfortable clothes, clothes that make me look sexy. I don’t give a damn about expensive handbags unless they can hold all my shit and not have the zipper break and the fabric tear.
Personally, I like 2nd hand stores, some retro, mostly tank tops, I love halter tops; my weight fluctuates too much to find a proper pair of nice-fitting jeans, and shoes? Well, being trans, we all are hit by that one. I’m a size 10, and though there are some nice shoes, all the cute shoes are usually in size 7.
Monika: What do you think about transgender beauty pageants?
Crista: I’m not sure. My first thought is a drag queen. If your trans, you should be in just a ‘beauty pageant’ not a ‘trans’ specific beauty pageant. Just my thoughts. If I want to see what trans women look like these days, I just surf the net and get my fill.
What gets me most, is how young people are transitioning these days, not how pretty they are because I already know, that transitioning at like age 5, you’re already going to pretty when you grow up. I did so in my early 20s and I still feel like I missed out.

"The younger you do it, the better you’ll turn out."

Monika: Many transgender ladies write their memoirs. Have you ever thought about writing such a book yourself?
Crista: Yep. It’s called When Fantasies Are Fulfilled. My YouTube videos are direct readings and my acting out each chapter, up to chapter 63 thus far, with more than double that still to read, but it’s already written and on my publisher’s desk.
Monika: Are you working on any new projects now?
Crista: Yea, I’m trying to take over my job by becoming the highest-ranking person in the building, one step up at a time. Now I’m about to enter 3rd in command with keys to the building. Only 2 more positions to go, and I’ve only been employed for 5 months.
Oh, that, and just trying to finish my DUI court program. I’ve been in it for 3 years now, and finish in 9 more months.
Monika: What would you recommend to all transgender girls struggling with gender dysphoria?
Crista: Don’t worry too much. Write yourself out a timeline, and just do it. Most of it is in your head. The only real difficulties are financial ones. Everything else is superficial.
If someone is giving you resistance, fuck them. They don’t live your life, you do. Find someone in the community you can look up to for whatever reason, and follow in their footsteps, with a few adjustments along the way to make it your own path. Just set your mind to it and do it already. The younger you do it, the better you’ll turn out and the more you’ll thank yourself later.


Prices of surgeries will only keep going up, but also keep getting better, but what’s available right now is great just the way it is.
Do your research, make your decisions, and do them. The longer you struggle with things, the longer you’ll wait to live the life you want.
Monika: Crista, thank you for the interview!

All the photos: Courtesy of Crista Lynn.
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