Support my friend Lilith

Some stories are not just parallel, they are intertwined at the soul. Lilith is not only my friend. She is my soul sister. We are women who walked through the same fire, carrying the same wounds, surviving the same battles that many people will never fully understand. We both know what it means to fight for our womanhood in a world that too often treats trans lives as disposable, unfinished, or unworthy of care. And we both know what it means to carry the physical and emotional consequences of surgeries that were supposed to set us free.

 

Twenty years ago, Lilith underwent gender-affirming surgery, an act of courage and survival at a time when trans women were offered far less compassion, information, and medical support than today. Like many from our generation, she was expected to simply endure complications in silence, grateful just to have been allowed access to care at all. But survival is not the same as healing. Today, Lilith urgently needs corrective revision surgery and silicone removal, procedures that are not cosmetic luxuries, but essential medical care that will allow her to finally live without pain, fear, and the burden of a body left without proper aftercare.

 

Lilith's fundraiser.

 

After being dismissed by the same Italian medical system that failed her decades ago, she now has no choice but to seek treatment in Thailand, where specialists can offer the competence, dignity, and humanity she deserves. As a trans woman myself, I cannot explain strongly enough how important this is. Many people imagine transition as a single moment, a surgery, a legal change, a before-and-after photograph. The reality is far more complex. For many of us, transition is a lifelong process of rebuilding ourselves while carrying the scars of medical neglect, social hostility, financial hardship, and isolation. Revision surgeries are not vanity. They are often about restoring health, functionality, comfort, and peace of mind after years, sometimes decades, of suffering.

 

Lilith has spent her life creating beauty from the margins. She is a multidisciplinary artist deeply rooted in Rome’s underground scene, someone who has dedicated herself to art that challenges binaries, expands imagination, and gives voice to lives too often pushed into the shadows. She has inspired countless people simply by existing authentically and courageously. Now she needs her community. Every contribution, every share, every kind word helps bring her closer to finally closing this painful chapter of her life. At a time when trans rights and trans humanity are increasingly under attack around the world, supporting one another is an act of resistance. It is an act of love. It is a reminder that we are still here, still surviving, still deserving of care, dignity, and joy. I am asking you, from one soul sister to another, please help Lilith if you can. Share her fundraiser.

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