Interview with Mireya Milan - Part 2

Monika: What do you think about transgender stories or characters which have been featured in films, newspapers, or books so far?
Mireya: I LOVE IT! I think it’s amazing I would love to keep seeing more of it. Because it's shinning a good light on what a lot of people would call it the “grey area” and like I said it’s all about educating people. People fear what they don’t know or understand so let them know and understand.
I watch a lot of anime and I find it sooooo amazing when, though the shows were created like 10 years ago, they have transgender and LGBT characters in them. That to me is mind-blowing because they are just so open-minded that they even put them in anime which is sometimes meant for kids. They are exposing the kids to it early on, and what I have learned from my experience and my transition is that all my young nieces and nephews took my transition so smooth I think it’s because kids don’t have predetermined judgments.

A sexy photoshoot.

So I think whoever is making these anime is doing a very good job about educating their kids that there are different types of people out there in this world but they are still human beings.
Monika: The transgender cause is usually manifested together with the other LGBT communities. Being the last letter in this abbreviation, is the transgender community able to promote its own cause within the LGBT group?
Mireya: I think we do hold our own but sometimes it’s very easy to get lost within all the acronyms. Especially when sometimes people even within our own community or the LGBT don’t really like us. I have had my share of experiences with either gay males, lesbians, or other trans girls who really dislike trans girls. I find it kinda sad that even the people in our own organizations feel that way.
I think in order for all of us to be accepted we have to come together as a whole and stop putting labels on each other. Sometimes we are so busy fighting each other when we should really be focused on working together and succeeding as a community.
Monika: Are you active in politics? Do you participate in any lobbying campaigns? Do you think transgender women can make a difference in politics?
Mireya: Umm not really ha-ha! I hated politics and history and social studies in high school. But I absolutely think transgender women should be involved in politics so they can begin changing the world, one step at a time.
I believe trans women come from all different kinds of walks of life and we should be able to do anything and everything that we set our minds to.
Monika: Do you like fashion? What kind of outfits do you usually wear? Any special fashion designs, colors, or trends?
Mireya: I absolutely LOVE fashion, waaaay better than politics ha-ha! To me, fashion is a way of life and it’s an amazing way to express yourself. I love to wear clothes that make me feel sexy, confident, gorgeous, and beautiful. If you talk to ANYONE of my friends they will tell you that I only own maybe about 3 pairs of jeans. I mean I like jeans but I have nice legs so I like to show them off. That’s the awesome thing about fashion is that you have the power to show off your best assets.
We all have something that we love about ourselves and also something that we don’t like very much about ourselves and with clothes you have the power to manipulate what assets to show off. I prefer skirts and dresses over jeans ANY DAY and also I don’t think I own very much flats either.
Ha-ha, I love heels and I love dressing up. I always have. I love wearing color especially in my shoes, a lot of my clothes have recently been black, and since I dyed my hair black it just looks really appealing. And the fact that I’m so fair gives me this snow-white kind of look and, of course, I add my signature red lips.
I think I own about 28 pairs of heels as of right now ha-ha! I love shoes especially loud colors like red, pink, and blue, some with studs some with spikes. Shoes to me can make or break the outfit! You would be surprised what a good pair of heels can do to your outfit.

In Dallas with 2 of my 3 sisters, my nieces, and my Mom.

Monika: What do you think about transgender beauty pageants?
Mireya: I think they are amazing and a lot of the girls in them are drop-dead gorgeous. I think they are doing an amazing job about proving to people that transgender girls are attractive, alluring, sexy, and confident.
And I also think they should be allowed to compete in regular beauty pageants with other genetic women.
Monika: Could you tell me about the importance of love in your life?
Mireya: Love to me is very important whether it’s coming from family, friends, or a significant other. We all as human beings need love.
Right now I am single but it’s definitely by choice I just really want to concentrate on my transition, work, and where my life is going. I honestly can’t go ANYWHERE without guys hitting on me and trying to scoop me up, not the supermarket not the gym, not even to the park and it doesn’t even matter if I am wearing sweat pants.
Yeah, it’s a nice stroke to my ego but sometimes it gets annoying. But yeah of course I do want to meet a guy, fall in love, get married, buy a house, and maybe even adopt some kids. In that order! Ha-ha!
Monika: Many transgender ladies write their memoirs. Have you ever thought about writing such a book yourself?
Mireya: I have thought about doing that maybe even starting like my own blog or something along those lines. I have started writing an autobiography but I have barely written like 3 pages. I am trying to buckle down and finish it, I think it would make an amazing story, and I would love to have people walk in my shoes by reading it, and seeing all the crazy shit I put my mom through growing up.

Running errands in Beverly Hills.

I feel like my memoir is my YouTube channel. It’s always going to be there even after I die hopefully someone will be watching my videos and hopefully get inspired by the way I lived my life. And of course, laughing their ass off at the same time, and that to me means the world, that’s why whenever I do my YouTube videos I treat it like a diary and I don’t censor myself. I try to be the most authentic me there is and I love making people laugh.
Monika: Are you working on any new projects now?
Mireya: I am actually. As I said above I am writing an autobiography of just my life, how I grew up, my family, my relationship, my transition, my abusive relationship. Basically everything and anything!
I am also working on a reality show, with my good friend David Moskowitz. It’s still in the process, we still have to finish the script, shoot a sizzle reel and then still pitch it to the networks but hopefully, it takes off soon. I have a huge feeling it’s going to change the world, in a positive amazing way.
I have also started modeling and acting here in Los Angeles so I am very excited to see what can come out of that.
Monika: What would you recommend to all transgender girls struggling with gender dysphoria?
Mireya: I would recommend you sit down somewhere quiet, breathe, relax, clear your mind and really think long and hard about what you really want.
Think about what you want to get out of this life.
Think about how you’re going to get it.
Think about what it’s going to take to get it, and then determine if it’s going to make you happy. Because like I said that should be the only that should matter. If you are happy. People around you will also be happy.
Make a list if you have to, weigh in your positives and your negatives and then make a plan. Because my mom always told me “a woman with a plan is unstoppable, water your own garden, and tend to your own lawn. And it shall attract everything you want”. I have been holding on to that quote for a very very long time and it has helped me get through a lot.
Monika: Mireya, thank you for the interview!

All the photos: courtesy of Mireya Milan.
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