Babs Casbar Siperstein is a remarkable figure whose life story embodies resilience, love, and the courage to embrace one’s true identity. With a career spanning decades as an influential transgender activist and advocate for LGBTQ+ rights, Babs has not only navigated her own journey of gender transition but has also paved the way for others to find their voices and truths. Born in a time when societal acceptance of transgender individuals was virtually nonexistent, Babs faced countless challenges throughout her life. She initially embraced her identity in secret, cultivating her feminine persona alongside her loving wife, Carol, who became her closest confidante and ally. Together, they explored the complexities of Babs's identity, embarking on a journey that would lead to a deeper understanding of self and the importance of love in overcoming adversity.
Throughout her transition, Babs demonstrated unwavering determination, juggling the demands of family, a thriving business, and her quest for authenticity. Her story is marked by pivotal moments, including her courageous decision to come out publicly and her commitment to creating a supportive community for others like herself. Babs’s journey is not only one of personal growth but also a testament to the power of love and friendship in the face of life's challenges. Today, as a respected voice in the transgender rights movement, Babs continues to inspire others through her advocacy work, sharing her story to foster understanding and acceptance. Her life serves as a beacon of hope for many, illustrating that with love, support, and a steadfast spirit, it is possible to overcome obstacles and live a life true to oneself.
Monika: Today, it is both a pleasure and an honor to welcome Babs Siperstein to the conversation. Babs is a trailblazer in the realm of politics and activism, particularly when it comes to the representation of transgender women in U.S. politics. As an esteemed American politician and dedicated trans activist, Babs has made significant contributions to various Democratic Party organizations, including the New Jersey Stonewall Democrats, Garden State Equality, and the Democratic National Committee Eastern Caucus. Welcome, Babs!
Babs: Hi, Monika! Thank you, for the opportunity to have an international stage. As one who can neither sing, dance nor model, it is a rare opportunity!
Monika: Can you share a bit about your career journey so far and what it has meant to you?
Babs: Lucky! The writer and actor Woody Allen once said that 80% of success in life is just showing up and I’m fortunate that I’ve been able to show up and lucky that when opportunities have arisen, I’ve been able to “carpe diem”, take advantage of them.
Babs: Lucky! The writer and actor Woody Allen once said that 80% of success in life is just showing up and I’m fortunate that I’ve been able to show up and lucky that when opportunities have arisen, I’ve been able to “carpe diem”, take advantage of them.
Monika: What are some of the key issues currently on the transgender advocacy agenda that you believe we should be paying attention to?
Babs: Where to begin? I think the most important right now are jobs and access to health care. Often in many cases, it’s just a fundamental matter of survival. Looking at the big picture we need to win the culture wars to gain societal respect to be recognized as the people we are.
Monika: Back in 2012, you were part of 'Trans United for Obama,' a national coalition of transgender individuals and their supporters that worked to re-elect President Obama. Can you share how you helped organize that project and what it was like to be involved?
Babs: “Trans United for Obama” (TU4O) was the idea of Lisa Mottet, Director of the Transgender Civil Rights Project of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF). It was purely a voluntary effort of advocates, bloggers, political activists, and leaders on a national and regional level. As we learned that people were elected or selected to be delegated to the Democratic National Convention we engaged them to be part of the initiative as well.
Working with the Obama campaign and using our own contacts we got some pretty impressive campaign surrogates to participate in our calls. Delaware Governor Jack Markell, Newark’s charismatic mayor, Corey Booker, and Chaz Bono were some of our headliners. I was just one of several people on the TU4O Executive Committee.
We engaged people across the country to volunteer for the campaign and I think we surprised people that we raised a bit of money, as well.
Babs: “Trans United for Obama” (TU4O) was the idea of Lisa Mottet, Director of the Transgender Civil Rights Project of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF). It was purely a voluntary effort of advocates, bloggers, political activists, and leaders on a national and regional level. As we learned that people were elected or selected to be delegated to the Democratic National Convention we engaged them to be part of the initiative as well.
Working with the Obama campaign and using our own contacts we got some pretty impressive campaign surrogates to participate in our calls. Delaware Governor Jack Markell, Newark’s charismatic mayor, Corey Booker, and Chaz Bono were some of our headliners. I was just one of several people on the TU4O Executive Committee.
We engaged people across the country to volunteer for the campaign and I think we surprised people that we raised a bit of money, as well.
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| Engaging with Vice-President Joe Biden. |
Monika: How do you view President Obama's administration's approach to issues affecting transgender Americans?
Babs: Generally very positive! To say that the Obama Administration has done more for transgender Americans than all other Administrations combine is a huge understatement.
Adding recognition of transgender people and appropriate rights and non-discrimination policies as they have done throughout much of this giant bureaucracy is almost revolutionary.
A couple of things got some publicity such as the new State Department policy for changing the gender markers on US Passports, the specific non-discrimination policy in federally financed housing, the Federal Employment non-discrimination policy as well as the EEOC ruling that employment discrimination on the basis of “gender identity” is illegal.
More important is the fact that they have been willing to interact and engage with the trans community directly. From the beginning, our advocates and policy people had met with the Administration as part of inclusive LGBT groups, but as with many issues that we share with our LGB brothers and sisters, there are so many issues that relate only to trans people.
Babs: Generally very positive! To say that the Obama Administration has done more for transgender Americans than all other Administrations combine is a huge understatement.
Adding recognition of transgender people and appropriate rights and non-discrimination policies as they have done throughout much of this giant bureaucracy is almost revolutionary.
A couple of things got some publicity such as the new State Department policy for changing the gender markers on US Passports, the specific non-discrimination policy in federally financed housing, the Federal Employment non-discrimination policy as well as the EEOC ruling that employment discrimination on the basis of “gender identity” is illegal.
More important is the fact that they have been willing to interact and engage with the trans community directly. From the beginning, our advocates and policy people had met with the Administration as part of inclusive LGBT groups, but as with many issues that we share with our LGB brothers and sisters, there are so many issues that relate only to trans people.
Monika: Were there any specific initiatives during that time that you found particularly inspiring or impactful?
Babs: There was no publicity surrounding the event, but if there is one thing I can be most proud of is in facilitating the first-ever meeting in the White House of Trans policy experts and advocates with the Administration policy staff.
Although this was strictly a non-political event, I could introduce myself only by my affiliation with GRAANJ, our New Jersey gender rights group, but it was by my earning of “political capital”, friendship and confidence that I suspect made it possible.
Last year, a promise was kept, something for which I had been strongly advocating for some time, and on November 20, 2012, the White House had its first-ever official Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) observance along with a follow-up meeting with the trans policy wonks.
A year or so prior to that I had encouraged the White House to invite Gwen Smith the woman who organized the international TDOR observance to speak at a Hate Crimes conference and talk first-hand about the endemic violence against trans people. It’s important to recognize that Obama pushed for and signed the Matthew Shepard- James Byrd Jr Hate Crimes Act which was the very first fully trans-inclusive LGBT law.
Vice President Joe Biden called transgender rights the “civil rights issue of our time”. I’ve talked to him several times... he “gets it”!
Monika: Having followed the recent U.S. presidential campaign closely, did you notice any differences in how the Republicans and Democrats addressed the needs and rights of the transgender community?
Babs: The difference was stark. Republicans were consistently speaking and acting to deny rights for all LGB and T people, despite two gay groups endorsing Romney. Romney, while Governor of Massachusetts, had a direct and harmful record of anti-transgender actions.
In 2009 just minutes before my confirmation, by a vote of the membership, as the first openly transgender member of the Democratic National Committee (DNC), that organization amended their Charter and By-laws not only to ban discrimination against transpeople, but to actively encourage the participation of trans people within the party. As the sitting President, Barack Obama is the Leader of the Democratic Party. In 2011, I ran for an open seat on the DNC Executive Committee and was elected. It was an open and positive process.
Obama has sought transgender support in the campaign, but more importantly, his record has been of engaging with the community to hear our concerns and work with our advocates and policy experts.
Babs: There was no publicity surrounding the event, but if there is one thing I can be most proud of is in facilitating the first-ever meeting in the White House of Trans policy experts and advocates with the Administration policy staff.
Although this was strictly a non-political event, I could introduce myself only by my affiliation with GRAANJ, our New Jersey gender rights group, but it was by my earning of “political capital”, friendship and confidence that I suspect made it possible.
Last year, a promise was kept, something for which I had been strongly advocating for some time, and on November 20, 2012, the White House had its first-ever official Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) observance along with a follow-up meeting with the trans policy wonks.
A year or so prior to that I had encouraged the White House to invite Gwen Smith the woman who organized the international TDOR observance to speak at a Hate Crimes conference and talk first-hand about the endemic violence against trans people. It’s important to recognize that Obama pushed for and signed the Matthew Shepard- James Byrd Jr Hate Crimes Act which was the very first fully trans-inclusive LGBT law.
Vice President Joe Biden called transgender rights the “civil rights issue of our time”. I’ve talked to him several times... he “gets it”!
Monika: Having followed the recent U.S. presidential campaign closely, did you notice any differences in how the Republicans and Democrats addressed the needs and rights of the transgender community?
Babs: The difference was stark. Republicans were consistently speaking and acting to deny rights for all LGB and T people, despite two gay groups endorsing Romney. Romney, while Governor of Massachusetts, had a direct and harmful record of anti-transgender actions.
In 2009 just minutes before my confirmation, by a vote of the membership, as the first openly transgender member of the Democratic National Committee (DNC), that organization amended their Charter and By-laws not only to ban discrimination against transpeople, but to actively encourage the participation of trans people within the party. As the sitting President, Barack Obama is the Leader of the Democratic Party. In 2011, I ran for an open seat on the DNC Executive Committee and was elected. It was an open and positive process.
Obama has sought transgender support in the campaign, but more importantly, his record has been of engaging with the community to hear our concerns and work with our advocates and policy experts.
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| With Newark, NJ Mayor Corey Booker. |
Monika: American politics often involves various interest groups advocating for their goals. How successful do you think the transgender community has been in navigating this landscape?
Babs: If we look at where we are and how far we need to go, I would say, not very successful. If we consider our size, how many of us are closeted, how many of us are “disabled” by pervasive societal stigma and living in poverty and fear… how much we have accomplished in the last 10 years or so.
I’d say we’ve achieved a remarkable degree of success by working with our many partners and allies and in some cases interacting directly. As we step up and assert ourselves in smart and constructive ways, as we persist and draw more people with us, we will succeed.
Monika: The transgender cause is often linked with the broader LGBTQ+ movement. As the last letter in that abbreviation, do you think the transgender community is able to effectively promote its own issues within the larger LGBTQ+ group?
Babs: Sometimes it is. For too long we have been a lower case “t” with most groups. What I have observed recently is that as LGBT organizations have been achieving success for their lesbian and gay constituencies, i.e. marriage, these organizations in order to survive and be relevant must expand their mission and goals, and often that means focusing on transpeople and our issues. Some friends of mine, national LGBT leaders, and funders have begun a project to encourage more national and state LGBT organizations to have transpeople on their governing boards.
With the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell (DADT) in the US Military, the lead organization involved, Servicemen's Legal Defense Network (SLDN) found itself in a crisis because it had achieved its #1 priority. They recently merged with Outserve a younger more inclusive group that is focused on those currently serving. The new Executive Director, a West Point grad, of the merged group, is a transwoman!
Babs: If we look at where we are and how far we need to go, I would say, not very successful. If we consider our size, how many of us are closeted, how many of us are “disabled” by pervasive societal stigma and living in poverty and fear… how much we have accomplished in the last 10 years or so.
I’d say we’ve achieved a remarkable degree of success by working with our many partners and allies and in some cases interacting directly. As we step up and assert ourselves in smart and constructive ways, as we persist and draw more people with us, we will succeed.
Monika: The transgender cause is often linked with the broader LGBTQ+ movement. As the last letter in that abbreviation, do you think the transgender community is able to effectively promote its own issues within the larger LGBTQ+ group?
Babs: Sometimes it is. For too long we have been a lower case “t” with most groups. What I have observed recently is that as LGBT organizations have been achieving success for their lesbian and gay constituencies, i.e. marriage, these organizations in order to survive and be relevant must expand their mission and goals, and often that means focusing on transpeople and our issues. Some friends of mine, national LGBT leaders, and funders have begun a project to encourage more national and state LGBT organizations to have transpeople on their governing boards.
With the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell (DADT) in the US Military, the lead organization involved, Servicemen's Legal Defense Network (SLDN) found itself in a crisis because it had achieved its #1 priority. They recently merged with Outserve a younger more inclusive group that is focused on those currently serving. The new Executive Director, a West Point grad, of the merged group, is a transwoman!
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| Babs Siperstein stands for Equality (YouTube) |
I recently attended the New York Gala of Lambda Legal, which is I believe the 2nd largest LGBT organization at least by $ budget. It was a bit disconcerting that out of 900 people in attendance I observed that I was perhaps only one of three transpeople present. I was encouraged by the fact that they now have a trans woman on their board.
She had encouraged me to come, and I was pleased to hear some talk about them starting a transgender legal project. Perhaps it is now “politically correct” to be trans-inclusive or perhaps there is a real desire for these LGBT organizations to give us a seat at the table. Regardless, we would be wise to step up and take that seat. If we are not at the table, then we will most likely be at the meal.
Just this past week I received a call from a national LGBT political group that has no ties to the trans community and appeared to now realize the need to expand their base and to be inclusive in fact. We shall see, I’m often a bit cynical, but I welcome an honest attempt at real inclusion and I always look for a win ... win scenario.
Monika: So can we be really successful?
Babs: It depends on how smart we are and how inclusive or myopic the other communities are. The first bit of LGBT legislation I was involved with was a school anti-bullying law. It gave explicit protections to LGB students, but not trans students. We engaged with the primary LGBT group that advocated for inclusion for gays and lesbians, they were sympathetic and understood when we explained that it is usually the gender-variant expression of the student that bullies act on and trans language would cover it. They understood that but were unwilling to push the lawmakers to include that language in the legislation.
But, a little more than a handful of focused, persistent, and motivated amateur lobbyists and transgender activists, learned the rules and got our language in, just like the high-priced lobbyists, and that law passed!
I also want to note that our core group of trans activists included if we must use labels, transsexuals, cross-dressers, and lesbians who understood the concept of gender variance. We were people who worked together for a goal.
Babs: It depends on how smart we are and how inclusive or myopic the other communities are. The first bit of LGBT legislation I was involved with was a school anti-bullying law. It gave explicit protections to LGB students, but not trans students. We engaged with the primary LGBT group that advocated for inclusion for gays and lesbians, they were sympathetic and understood when we explained that it is usually the gender-variant expression of the student that bullies act on and trans language would cover it. They understood that but were unwilling to push the lawmakers to include that language in the legislation.
But, a little more than a handful of focused, persistent, and motivated amateur lobbyists and transgender activists, learned the rules and got our language in, just like the high-priced lobbyists, and that law passed!
I also want to note that our core group of trans activists included if we must use labels, transsexuals, cross-dressers, and lesbians who understood the concept of gender variance. We were people who worked together for a goal.
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| 2011 - Grand Marshall of the Hudson County Pride Parade and Festival. |
That was a great learning experience for me, It showed that you have to learn the rules and make them work for you. We did that time and time again in my state of New Jersey. When the big national gay legal organization hired a successful producer and organizer to hold town meetings and dinners to support same-sex marriage, we showed up and spoke in support of marriage from the perspective of a trans-person.
We educated the public and the LGB organizers and we were welcomed. We eventually were included in every speaking event to speak on marriage and other trans issues. It was a successful partnership where everyone received benefits. We were fortunate that this organizer, who later organized Garden State Equality was willing to be engaged had a broad perspective of LGBT equality.
There are other people and organizations that give the impression that could care less about transpeople or even about most gay issues. The people from “Freedom to Marry” are but one such group that seems to care only about gay marriage.
We educated the public and the LGB organizers and we were welcomed. We eventually were included in every speaking event to speak on marriage and other trans issues. It was a successful partnership where everyone received benefits. We were fortunate that this organizer, who later organized Garden State Equality was willing to be engaged had a broad perspective of LGBT equality.
There are other people and organizations that give the impression that could care less about transpeople or even about most gay issues. The people from “Freedom to Marry” are but one such group that seems to care only about gay marriage.
All the photos: courtesy of Babs Siperstein.
© 2013 - Monika Kowalska
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