|Tri Ess National Conference Nov 2001 – Chicago.|
For 4 years it grew until the economy problems. I loved doing carpentry projects. Every job was something new and I could express my creativity in people’s homes.
I have been actively involved with PFLAG – NH (Parents Family and friends of Lesbians and Gays) and have spoken at the national conference in Washington, DC. I found that sharing my story helped many other people learn more about Transgender people. But it also helped me realize that I could have an impact to help others like me at the same time.
I had married a lovely lady, we had two lovely daughters and I was a roll model for them and my community. The difficulty was building up enough courage to let the people I loved know that I needed to explore this part of me that had remained in the shadows. And when I went looking for support I found the options were very limited in New Hampshire. My family was not very helpful during those times. I was essentially on my own to find or build resources to help myself and others like me.
In 1999 I worked with a number of Cross dressers in the southern NH to build a Tri Ess chapter to support ourselves and our families. Tri Ess was a national organization and we utilized a lot of the materials they provided to start our New England chapter. The Chapter still exists and helps other Cross Dressers and families, but I am just an on-looker at this point.
|At the Out and Equal Conference in Phoenix,|
AR - 2004 Working at the HP Booth.
We all have our own personal needs, family and work situations, as well as financial barriers that may need to be overcome. I have met many transgender people on my journey and I don’t ask them about their procedures or status. That’s their business, not mine. I live my life as a transgender woman today and that’s it.
Many communities victimize trans-people because we don’t fit the stereotypical role models of being male or female. In many areas the general public is afraid of transgender people because we have been positioned as being sexual deviants and/or child molesters. It’s kind of hard to hold a job or get a job when you are already being positioned as a criminal.
|In Austin, Texas for Business, just enjoying a night out, 2005.|
It’s kind of hard to share the wide range of stories that we have to tell people. Our journeys and challenges are all so unique. I think Hollywood needs to seriously look at using some transgender people in future films so that these people can express the pain and challenges they have had in a realistic form. Many of these movies are good, but they aren’t as real as they should be to get the points across.
Slowly this is changing as people start to see the benefits of working together to move toward some common goals. It’s a very hard process when working with people in various stages of hormone usage and family disruption.
The Transgender proposal passed in the NH House of Representatives but failed in the Senate. The question will return in the next year or two. I will be there to have my voice heard, again!
|My first Truck Driving Job, 2010.|
After my face appeared in the Local news media, supporting transgender rights in Concord, the cat was out of the bag. Some people initially had issues with it. But then they began to realize that I was the same person they knew. I was the same caring person they had come to depend on. From that point on life went on as usual. I was just another member of the Congregation.
|October 2002 – Human Rights Campaign Fund Raiser|
– Boston with her Daughter Sarah.
Part of the problem is that I’ve gained some weight sitting in a driver’s seat for 10-11 hours a day. I really need to lose a few pounds so that I can wear all of the nice clothes I have hanging in my closet.