Monika: Today it is my pleasure and honour to interview Fernanda Milán, a Guatemalan native, the first transgender person to be granted asylum in Denmark. Hello Fernanda!
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This forces us to do things that are not well seen in the “Guatemalan Moral Code.” Then we are punished and our rights are violated for living in the context that we are force to live in. It might sound complex but it is very simple. The society is saying that we hetero-normative patriarchal practitioners have the right to a normal life, but YOU transgender people don't.
Monika: During the whole process, you were assisted by the T-Refugee Project as well as the whole Danish LGBT community…
A great number of blogs, Facebook posts and uncountable number of people doing things that I wouldn't be able to mention in such a short time, were as much important to save my life. I will be eternally grateful to all these persons. I would like to name them one by one but I do not dare because I am afraid to leave someone unmentioned.
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Monika: At that time of your transition, did you have any transgender role models that you could follow?
In a series of abuses that are uncountable, one day I was sent out from my Drama School because the principal thought that being myself was aggressive towards the alumni of the institution. Parents were concerned, complaints were made, as far as he told me. So I cannot tell what was more difficult, so many unfortunate things that after so many years I have been able to overcome finally.
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I am learning to live with that and choose my battles, but it is a heart breaking process. But, at the end of the day, I think transgender people are moving forward slowly, and that is the most important thing.
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Dating is a hard thing for everybody, but until we don't eradicate all prejudice there will be more harsh times for transgender women. I have suffered enough for the romantic love. But still I am hopeful! The child adoption and establishment of a little family of my own would be a life-saving moment for me, so fingers crossed!
As a former beauty queen, (it was easier when I was younger, because I was like a pole, with no curves whatsoever) I can tell you that it is possible to use these titles in a more positive way for making a change in the trans community. But I will stick to the principle that my opinion is irrelevant in this matter because I would like to judge no one; it is their right to live their lives as they want.
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So I was praised for the writing of monologues and dialogues back at school. Narrative is something that I have enjoyed as a reader all my life, especially by Latin American authors. Women are so much better writers in my opinion. So it has been a journey of experimentation and excavation of the past, cathartic as much as fun. Only time will tell if the book will see the light. But I am most Hopeful that it will.
And I am learning Danish as a part of my integration program; it is a very difficult but interesting language to learn. But I think that I am finally at a point where I can really start something, and I will never let go of the dream of performing art, which has been my original plan since my childhood.