Jeri Hughes is a transgender activist from the USA. Since her arrest for the “crime” of being transgender in 1983, she has been an outspoken advocate for all human rights. Although her fight has primarily focused on the struggles faced by the transgender community, she has also extended her efforts to embrace the entire LGBT community. Jeri was among the first to promote direct action within the DC community to expand existing domestic partnership laws into full-fledged marriage equality. She actively participated in the fight to repeal Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT) and initiated and filed the complaint against the DC Department of Corrections with the Office of Human Rights while simultaneously engaging the broader LGBT community, leading to a shift in DOC policy regarding the rights and dignity of transgender prisoners.
Jeri also played a key role in reforming policies within the Metropolitan Police Department, resulting in a new General Order that respects gender identity and expression. Working independently in 2009, she spearheaded efforts to reform discriminatory employment practices targeting the transgender community within the District. Once again, her work mobilized the broader community, fostering open discussions and leading to programs like Project Empowerment. She continues these efforts and is currently collaborating with the Gray Administration to implement new and effective measures to combat systemic discrimination.
Over the years, Jeri has volunteered and worked with several organizations, including Helping Individual Prostitutes Survive (H.I.P.S.), the Anacostia Watershed Society (A.W.S.), Transgender Health Empowerment (T.H.E.), the National Center for Transgender Equality (N.C.T.E.), and the International Foundation for Gender Education (I.F.G.E.). She is also a longtime and active member of the Gertrude Stein Democratic Club and the Gay and Lesbian Activists Alliance (G.L.A.A.). Jeri is a resident of the District of Columbia and lives in the Petworth neighborhood of Ward 1.
Monika: Hello Jeri! Could you introduce yourself and share a little about your background and passions?
Jeri: Good morning, Monika. I am a very simple person, very ordinary. Perhaps this is why I feel connected to so many others. I find joy in the little things, whether it's a warm cup of coffee in the morning or a meaningful conversation. Throughout my life, I've always believed that kindness and authenticity are the keys to forming genuine connections. While I may see myself as ordinary, I cherish the moments when I can make a difference in someone's day, no matter how small.
Monika: Looking back on your journey, when did you take the steps to transition, and what challenges did you face along the way? Did you have support from your family and friends during that time?
Jeri: I was always female; understanding and accepting that was the difficult part. I transitioned twice. First in the '80s, prior to AIDS. After witnessing so much death, and the loss of my friends and support system, I went into a stage of denial. Unable to perpetuate the lie, I decided to live authentically for a second time. It was extremely frightening and cost me all that I had, the most important loss was my employability. My family and friends were supportive. Finding strength within myself became essential, as the world wasn’t always welcoming. Over time, I learned resilience and found new communities that embraced me. Despite the hardships, being true to myself was the most freeing experience of my life.
Monika: During your transition, were there any transgender individuals who inspired or guided you? Did you have role models who helped shape your journey?
Jeri: I had no particular role models. I was inspired by Dr. Becky Allison. Dr. Aviva Nubel taught me that I had a right to live and to be good to myself. Their stories and resilience gave me hope during the most challenging moments. Seeing strong, successful transgender women thrive reminded me that I, too, deserved happiness and fulfillment. Over time, I also found inspiration in everyday people who showed kindness and understanding, reinforcing my belief in the power of human connection.
Monika: Looking back on your coming out journey, what was the most difficult aspect for you? Were there specific challenges that stood out the most?
Jeri: Everything. The fear of rejection, the uncertainty of how people would react, and the risk of losing everything I had built weighed heavily on me. Every conversation felt like a gamble, not knowing if I would be met with understanding or hostility. Despite the struggles, I knew that living authentically was the only way forward, even if it meant facing hardship along the way.
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| On her bike. |
Monika: Many transgender women struggle with the fear of not "passing" and being judged for their appearance. As a lovely woman yourself, what advice would you give to those who worry about not being seen as authentically female?
Jeri: The fear of not passing? Ladies, join the Club. Even the best of the best of us do not truly "pass." And truthfully, you shouldn't want to. You are special, you have gone through a very difficult journey. You survived. To deny that journey, to deny your past, would be tragic. Look at Laverne Cox or Janet Mock. Being "real" is just that. No more lies, no half-truths, no secrets. You have value. Be open and true. Confidence and self-acceptance will always shine brighter than society's narrow expectations. The most beautiful women are those who embrace who they are without apology. In the end, your authenticity is what makes you truly radiant.
Monika: How do you view the current situation of transgender women in American society, and how do you feel about the progress that's been made?
Jeri: Transgender women face a tremendous amount of discrimination, but on my worst day in 2014, it isn't half as bad as 20 years ago. Laws have changed, but so have hearts and minds. It has happened because transgender women have spoken up and defended their right to exist. Keep it going. Be a part of the solution. There’s still a long way to go, but every step forward matters. We must continue advocating for visibility and equality. The more we share our stories, the more we break down the barriers of ignorance and fear.
Monika: Do you believe that transgender rights could be the next frontier in the fight for human rights, and why is it so important for society to embrace these issues?
Jeri: Human Rights encompass Transgender Rights. We are just people. We need the same things that others need. Employment, housing, hope. Even a dog gets a warm place on the sidewalk. It's about basic dignity and equality, not special treatment. We deserve the right to live freely without fear of discrimination or violence. Progress in transgender rights is progress for all of humanity, as it helps create a more inclusive and compassionate world for everyone.
Monika: What are your thoughts on how transgender stories and characters have been portrayed in films, books, and media so far? Do you think they’ve been handled well, or is there room for improvement?
Jeri: I tire of transition stories. I have read so many, heard so many. Transition never truly stops. There is no "final" chapter to a transition. As far as stories or characters, I don't like seeing transgender women stereotyped. At all. It’s important for the narrative to reflect the full humanity of transgender people, beyond just our transitions. Our lives are rich with experiences, not defined solely by the process of change. I wish there were more stories that show us thriving, not just surviving.
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Monika: In the context of the broader LGBT movement, do you feel the transgender community has been able to fully promote its own cause, or is there still a struggle for visibility and recognition within the group?
Jeri: No. If society cannot accept transgender individuals as equal members, we will never experience equality. Success is defined by the assistance and support of those outside our community. The fight for transgender rights cannot solely rely on the LGBT community, it needs allies from all walks of life. Without collective support, we risk being marginalized within the very movements that should empower us. The real progress will come when the broader society understands that transgender rights are human rights.
Monika: In today's transgender movement, are there any individuals whose actions and impact could be compared to what Harvey Milk did for the gay rights movement in the '60s and '70s?
Jeri: Laverne Cox and Janet Mock are great examples of leaders. Their courage and authenticity change hearts and minds. They provide the ingredient that Harvey Milk espoused... Hope. Just like Harvey Milk, they have shown the power of visibility and representation in sparking change. Through their activism, they’ve given transgender people a voice and a platform. They remind us that true progress is not just about legal victories, but also about shifting societal attitudes and creating a future where everyone is accepted.
Monika: Do you consider yourself active in politics or involved in any lobbying efforts for transgender rights? Do you believe transgender women have the power to make a significant impact in the political sphere?
Jeri: I have been called an activist, but do not see myself in that perspective. I just cannot tolerate injustice. When I confront it, I can't stop until I see some kind of action indicating that it will be corrected. For me, it's not about labels, it's about doing what's right. Transgender women have a unique perspective and, when given the opportunity, can bring about meaningful change. The political landscape needs more voices like ours, demanding fairness and equality. It’s not just about fighting for ourselves but advocating for all marginalized communities.
Monika: How do you view the role of love in your life? Is it something that guides you, or do you see it in a different light?
Jeri: Without love, there is no life. Romantic love is not part of that formula; it is probably a kind of illness or malady. A type of insanity. Just the same, I would not mind "falling in love" one more time in my life. Insanity has its appeal. Love, in any form, brings meaning to our lives, and even though it can be messy and complicated, it's worth experiencing. It's a reminder that we’re all connected, despite the chaos. Maybe it’s not always about finding "the one," but about appreciating the love we already have in our lives, from friends and family.
Monika: How would you describe your personal style? Do you enjoy fashion, and are there specific outfits, colors, or trends that you’re drawn to?
Jeri: Business conservative at work. Motorcycle casual at home. I like comfort mixed with a touch of professionalism when necessary. I’m not one for flashy trends, but I do enjoy pieces that reflect my personality, simple, functional, yet expressive. When I’m not at work, I love being able to relax in something laid-back and easy, like a leather jacket or boots.
Monika: Many transgender ladies write their memoirs. Have you ever thought about writing such a book yourself?
Jeri: Yes, I have even started. It is not a life about transition; it is about foolishness, recklessness, and a world of mistakes. A lot of which I am not proud of. It has been interesting and MIGHT make a good read but the process truly leaves me feeling exposed and extremely vulnerable. I won't do it if I cannot be completely honest. And I don't have any idea about how to end it. If I can't provide a positive measure of hope or growth, it would make the effort meaningless. I haven't touched the work in two years.
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DOES testimony 2-18-11. Jeri Hughes. Source: YouTube. |
Jeri: I hope that I am still alive. I am thankful for each day. I am presently employed at the Department of Employment Services in DC. I would like to have an impact on ending employment discrimination in DC. I would like to see our girls in real jobs, and out of the underground economy. If I can be a small part of that, my life might not have been entirely misspent. In the next few years, I hope to continue advocating for the rights of transgender individuals in the workplace. I also want to create a network of support for those who are facing barriers to employment. If I can leave a legacy of equality and opportunity for others, that would mean everything to me.
Monika: What advice would you give to transgender women who are struggling with gender dysphoria and looking for a path forward?
Jeri: Fix it. Being comfortable in your own body is priceless. There is no substitute. Don’t let anyone tell you that your journey isn’t valid or worth it. It’s important to seek out the support you need, whether it’s medical, emotional, or both. Remember that your happiness and well-being are worth the effort, and you deserve to live authentically. Take it one step at a time, and know that you're not alone in this.
Monika: Jeri, thank you for the interview!
Jeri: You are more than welcome. Hugz to all, and be good to yourselves. If you aren't, no one else will. Care about others. Do these two things today, and all of the tomorrows. You deserve it!
All the photos: courtesy of Jeri Hughes.
© 2014 - Monika Kowalska
Jeri Hughes, a dedicated transgender rights advocate in Washington, D.C., who worked tirelessly alongside activists to support the local LGBTQ community, passed away on March 18 at the age of 73 after a courageous seven-year battle with lung cancer. Her contributions to the movement and her unwavering commitment to justice have left an indelible mark on the lives of many. She will be remembered for her advocacy, strength, and the hope she inspired in those around her.
18 March 2025
