Brae Carnes, a young Canadian transgender activist whose courage and creativity helped spark an important national conversation. Many people first heard her name in 2015, when her social media campaign against bathroom bans captured the attention of the Canadian press and highlighted the dangers posed by the proposed amendments to Bill C279. Brae stepped into the spotlight not for personal gain, but to stand up for the safety and dignity of transgender women across Canada, and she did so with a clarity and determination that resonated far beyond her own community. At just twenty-three, she was already advocating for legal protections, participating in political discussions, and using her voice and her camera to document not only her own journey but also the broader challenges faced by transgender people.
Her work shows both her passion for justice and her belief that visibility can change minds. Beyond activism, she brings a sense of style, creativity, and heartfelt honesty to everything she does, whether she is talking about her transition, her role models, her love for fashion, or the importance of emotional support. Her story reminds us that even a single person with determination can open doors that once seemed firmly closed. She also represents a new generation of activists who are unafraid to challenge outdated narratives and speak openly about their lives. Her courage encourages others to find their own voices, even on days when it feels difficult. It is a joy to speak with her today.
Monika: Today it is my pleasure and honor to interview Brae Carnes, a young transgender activist and vlogger from Canada. Hello Brae!
Brae: Hello Monika!
Monika: For readers meeting you for the first time, how would you describe yourself?
Brae: I am 23 and currently a trans rights activist, specifically opposing the amendments made to Bill C279 by Canadian Senator Donald Plett. I became involved because the changes felt harmful and unfair. My goal has always been to help others understand why these protections matter so deeply. I hope that by speaking out, I can encourage more people to support trans rights.
Monika: In February 2015 your social media campaign against bathroom bans for transgender women suddenly made headlines across Canada. Looking back, how did you feel about the way the media covered your campaign?
Brae: I was satisfied because it was coverage, which I was very grateful for. They somewhat simplified my campaign, which is understandable because anything related to trans issues can be hard for the public to understand. I was still glad that the message reached a wide audience. Even if not every detail was captured, the visibility helped spark important conversations.
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Monika: Discussions about bathroom access often become emotional and political very quickly. In your view, how serious is the bathroom issue for transgender people in Canada?
Brae: The problem is not necessarily with the bathroom bans themselves. If the amendments were to become law, I doubt anyone would abide by them or enforce them. I believe this became such a strong issue because the amendments acted as a deflection from the original Bill C279, which aimed to make gender identity protected under the law. Along with this, the real-life effects of such a law, if it truly became law, could potentially place transgender people in emotional and physical harm. The debate also created fear and confusion that affected people long before any law could have taken effect. It showed how easily trans lives can be used for political distraction instead of genuine protection.
Monika: How would you describe the current reality for transgender women living in Canada today?
Brae: Until these amendments were made, trans women were generally fairly safe. We are at higher risk of physical, emotional, and sexual assault than the average woman. We are also at a much higher risk for suicide and murder. These issues tend to appear in every country. From a medical standpoint, our healthcare is good, and SRS is covered by the government. Access to affirming care has improved, but social attitudes still have a long way to go. Many trans women continue to struggle with visibility, safety, and acceptance in their daily lives.
Monika: When did you begin your own transition, and how would you describe the experience of those early steps?
Brae: I began my transition at 21. It was very difficult in the beginning, but I have a very accepting and supportive family that made it much better. Their encouragement helped me stay grounded through the hardest moments. Looking back, I am grateful that I had people who believed in me from the start.
Monika: During the early stages of your transition, were there any transgender figures you looked up to for inspiration or strength?
Brae: I was a fan of Jenna Talackova, the Canadian Miss Universe contender. However, she was disqualified when they discovered she was trans. This received media attention everywhere. She showed me that trans women can accomplish great things and stand up for themselves. Her courage gave me confidence to embrace my own path. She proved that visibility can change public perception in meaningful ways.
Monika: Today, are there transgender women you particularly admire or feel inspired by?
Brae: Presently, I have respect for each and every trans woman for having the bravery to be themselves. Every journey is unique, and each woman faces challenges that are often unseen. I admire the strength it takes to live authentically in a world that can be hostile or dismissive. Their resilience reminds me why advocacy matters so much.
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Monika: Looking back at your own journey, what would you say was the most challenging part of coming out?
Brae: The hardest part for me was guilt. I felt as though I was robbing my loved ones of someone they cherished. It turns out that person never left and simply became happier. I eventually realized that authenticity brings people closer rather than pushing them away. Accepting this truth made the entire process much more healing.
Monika: Within the broader LGBT community, the transgender cause is often discussed alongside other identities. Do you feel the trans community is able to pursue its own goals while being part of this larger group?
Brae: I think that we are at a point where the letters before us have attained their rights but we have not. I think we need to branch away from that acronym and show that there is a difference between sexual orientation and gender identity. Highlighting that distinction allows people to better understand our specific struggles. It also helps create space for conversations focused directly on trans rights and safety.
Monika: How do you feel about the way transgender people and their stories are currently portrayed in Canadian films, newspapers, and books?
Brae: I think that there has yet to be a publication where the fact that a person was trans did not take up the entire premise. I would like to see transgender people as characters in film and the media without the fact that they are trans mentioned. Representation should allow us to exist naturally within a story rather than becoming the story. It would be wonderful to reach a point where trans characters are included simply because they are part of everyday life.
Monika: When you look at Canadian transgender activism today, do you see anyone whose influence could be compared to Harvey Milk’s role in American gay activism during the 60s and 70s?
Brae: I think that because many trans people do not want to out themselves and live stealth, such an organization would not be possible. This, along with the fact that there are far fewer trans people than homosexual people, creates additional challenges. Many activists work quietly within their communities rather than publicly. Our movement is growing, but it is still shaped by privacy, safety concerns, and smaller numbers.
Monika: Have you become involved in political work or advocacy efforts, and do you believe transgender women can shape the political landscape in meaningful ways?
Brae: I have never been active in politics before this, however, I am meeting with Randall Garrison, the creator of Bill C279, soon. I think having a trans woman in politics would be both a powerful and inspirational movement in the right direction. Political visibility can open doors for others who feel unheard. It also helps show that trans people are capable leaders with valuable perspectives.
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| The bathroom campaign. |
Monika: Fashion seems to be an important part of many women’s self-expression. How would you describe your own style and the kinds of clothing you enjoy wearing?
Brae: I love fashion, I model recreationally, and wish I could do it professionally. I am a fan of high-end fashion, and I really like Alexander McQueen. I do not buy expensive clothes though; I wear the cheapest stuff I can find but still stay on top of trends and put my own style into everything I wear. Fashion allows me to express confidence even on difficult days. It also gives me a creative outlet that I truly enjoy.
Monika: How has love shaped your life, and what role does it play in your overall happiness and well-being?
Brae: I find that I am at my best when I am in a committed relationship. I currently have a very supportive boyfriend. Having someone who understands me brings a sense of stability to my life. Love gives me strength during difficult moments and helps me stay grounded.
Monika: Many transgender women eventually choose to write memoirs or poetry collections that reflect their journeys. Have you considered creating a book of your own?
Brae: I used to write a lot of poetry back when times were harder. I often think about publishing these or a memoir of some sort, though I wonder when I will ever have the time or discipline. Writing has always been a way for me to process my emotions. It would be meaningful to share those pieces someday if the opportunity arises.
Monika: What projects or creative efforts are keeping you busy at the moment?
Brae: Currently, I am just making videos for my transition documentation video blog on YouTube. It is called Brae C. I am mostly focused on raising trans rights awareness and fighting the amendments to Bill C279. Sharing my story online helps me connect with others who feel alone. It also motivates me to stay consistent in my advocacy work.
Monika: For transgender girls who are struggling with gender dysphoria, what words of comfort or advice would you offer them?
Brae: When I experience dysphoria, I try not to look in any mirrors. Do something to distract yourself and remind yourself that this day too shall pass. Taking small steps to care for yourself can make a big difference. Remember that dysphoria does not define who you are or who you can become.
Monika: Brae, thank you for the interview!
Brae: Thanks for having me. It was a pleasure to share my thoughts. I hope this conversation helps someone who needs it.
All the photos: Courtesy of Brae Carnes.
© 2015 - Monika Kowalska
