Monika: Today I would like to present to you Lisa Du Preez, a stunning model and successful businesswoman from South Africa. Hello Lisa!
Lisa: Hello Monika, lovely to meet you.
Monika: How did you start modeling?
Monika: If you are not on the catwalk, what kind of outfits do you usually wear? Any special fashion designs, colors, or trends?
I became known as a glamour model and this is where I am stuck, ones you are a glamour model it is hard to get into fashion modeling, again my boobs are a problem, not that I mind.
Lisa: I mind what I eat, low carbohydrates, and stay active. I don’t believe in any diet or wonder pill, the easiest thing to do is to track what you eat and some exercise.
Monika: What is the reaction of the other models when they learn that you are transgender?
Lisa: Models don’t mind, I don’t think there is as much bitching with models as there is in beauty pageants, other models normally give me great credit for the way I look, it is a big industry and there is work for everybody, not that I mind as modeling is only a part-time thing for me.
Lisa: Models don’t mind, I don’t think there is as much bitching with models as there is in beauty pageants, other models normally give me great credit for the way I look, it is a big industry and there is work for everybody, not that I mind as modeling is only a part-time thing for me.
Monika: Where did you grow up?
Lisa: I grew up in a town called “Witbank” in South Africa for most of my childhood. We then moved to a town called “Springs” on the east rand of Johannesburg, where I went to high school and college.
Lisa: As most transgender girls I always knew that I was different and I was bullied from a really young age because I was so feminine, I never really understood what was happening because there was no information about being transgender at the time.
I have only one sister and I always played games with her and I could be a girl, I always told her that I am a girl, I just wasn’t sure what to do about it. As the only son in the family, my dad wanted me to play rugby and do men's things but that just never worked, my parents split when I was young and my stepfather was really supportive of my lifestyle and change.
I have only one sister and I always played games with her and I could be a girl, I always told her that I am a girl, I just wasn’t sure what to do about it. As the only son in the family, my dad wanted me to play rugby and do men's things but that just never worked, my parents split when I was young and my stepfather was really supportive of my lifestyle and change.
Monika: For most transgender girls, the most traumatic time is the time spent at school, college, or university when they had to face lots of discrimination. Was it the same in your case?
Lisa: Yes I was really severely bullied, I was at a boys-only school because that was the way it worked back then in the town I was in, it was unthinkable the abuse I had to endure, name-calling and physical abuse.
I didn’t do too well in school because of this and then left school to complete my education in college, there it was a bit easier than having loads of testosterone fuel boys abusing the kids that are different.
I didn’t do too well in school because of this and then left school to complete my education in college, there it was a bit easier than having loads of testosterone fuel boys abusing the kids that are different.
Lisa: I had the operation in Pretoria – South Africa on the 21 July 1999, I was 24; It was performed by a consultant from England Mr. Delrimple, he is now retired but I still see him from time to time socially.
The operation wasn’t a nice thing to go through but it was my re-birth and I was so glad that it was over, the healing process went well and I had no complications.
I had a lot of support from friends and family, well most of them. I knew I had to be a bit selfish and do what is right for me at the time and not worry about what others think, I did the right thing as the people that didn’t agree with me having the change then now understand why I did it and support me.
The operation wasn’t a nice thing to go through but it was my re-birth and I was so glad that it was over, the healing process went well and I had no complications.
I had a lot of support from friends and family, well most of them. I knew I had to be a bit selfish and do what is right for me at the time and not worry about what others think, I did the right thing as the people that didn’t agree with me having the change then now understand why I did it and support me.
Monika: Did you have any problems with passing as a woman?
Lisa: I am lucky, No I have always been mistaken to be a girl, even when I was young, my voice never changed and although I am 6ft tall I have a tiny body and feminine face.
Monika: We are living in times of modern cosmetic surgery that might allow transitioning even in the late 50s or 60s. Do you think it is really possible? What kind of advice do you have for transgender ladies at such an age?
I advise people at this age to plan their transition carefully and set goals. Having feminization surgery and hair removal treatment is more important than the GRS operation and should take priority, I know people in their fifties that did it this way and it was a great success.
Monika: At that time of your transition did you have any transgender role models that you could follow? What was your knowledge about transgenderism?
Lisa: I had no role models as the subject was still Taboo in South Africa, I didn’t know any transgender woman at the time of my operation. I didn’t know a lot about being transgender or what it really meant, all I knew was that I was a girl and this was something that I had to do.
In a way, I am glad that I was alone at the time because I did it my way and dealt with things in my own way. Sometimes too much advice gives you an expectation of what is going to happen and if it doesn’t happen the way you were advised you feel that you are somehow different from other Trans woman and that maybe you are not successful in your transition.
In a way, I am glad that I was alone at the time because I did it my way and dealt with things in my own way. Sometimes too much advice gives you an expectation of what is going to happen and if it doesn’t happen the way you were advised you feel that you are somehow different from other Trans woman and that maybe you are not successful in your transition.
Monika: What was the hardest thing about your coming out?
Lisa: I didn’t have a coming out when I was young, I was always a girl and there was no mistake about it at all, even if I tried to hide it, everybody that knew me knew I was more a girl than a boy.
Telling my family that I am going to have the surgery was not easy but I knew that I had to be selfish for one moment in my life and think about myself only, I did and today everybody in my family loves and respects me for who I am.
Monika: What did you feel when you were finally a woman?
Telling my family that I am going to have the surgery was not easy but I knew that I had to be selfish for one moment in my life and think about myself only, I did and today everybody in my family loves and respects me for who I am.
Monika: What did you feel when you were finally a woman?
Lisa: Having the surgery to complete who I am was wonderful. I soon discovered that the change was underneath my clothing and that mentally I was already a woman. I really enjoyed my transition and was like going through puberty again.
Monika: What do you enjoy most in being a woman?
Lisa: I live a full life as a woman, for the biggest part of my life people don’t know I am transgender and I don’t go around telling everybody, I don’t mind people knowing but I don’t need to tell everybody my personal business just like they don’t need to tell me theirs. It is difficult to put a value on being a woman because I have always been one.
END OF PART 1
All the photos: courtesy of Lisa Du Preez.
© 2013 - Monika Kowalska
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