Interview with Kara Nicole Hays

Kara Nicole Hays, born Kody in a small town in southeastern Ohio, grew up in the heart of America's conservative Bible Belt. Her early years were marked by feelings of isolation and confusion, as she struggled with gender dysphoria and the expectations of a society that didn’t understand her. At the age of 12, before beginning her transition, Kara made headlines by attending a Halloween dance dressed in a red vinyl catsuit, a homage to her idol, Britney Spears. This bold statement shocked her classmates and school officials, setting the tone for a childhood filled with both scrutiny and self-discovery.

Interview with Rosalyne Blumenstein LCSW ACHP-SW

Monika: Rosalyne Blumenstein is a pioneering figure in the transgender community, having transitioned in the 1970s and become a strong advocate for transgender rights and public health. She helped popularize the term "transgender" through her work at the Lesbian and Gay Community Services Center in New York, where she directed the Gender Identity Project. Her journey, from her early days in Canarsie to becoming a mentor and muse to artists like Zackary Drucker, continues to inspire. Her life embodies the struggle and triumph of navigating a world that often resists the complexities of gender. Hello Rosalyne!

Rosalyne: Hello Monika! First I want to thank you for having this website and bringing a variety of voices together to share with others. And second, thank you for asking me to participate. Hopefully, even after my responses to your questions, you will feel the same way☺.

Monika: Having had so many talents and jobs, which profession do you enjoy most?

Rosalyne: The one that pays the rent of course!☺
There have been many phases in my life and within those stages of life and my varied professions. There was enjoyment and struggle within each and every phase. What I can say is that I have learned so much about myself and the world around me within each phase and each profession. I’ve been involved in professions that had a tremendous stigma attached to them at the time I was involved.

Interview with Şevval Kılıç

Monika: Today, I am thrilled to have the opportunity to speak with Şevval Kılıç, a prominent Turkish LGBT activist who has dedicated her life to advocating for transgender rights. Şevval is a key member of several vital organizations, including Istanbul LGBTT Dayanışma Derneği and Trans-Blok, and she plays an integral role in organizing the Istanbul Trans Pride parade. Şevval's journey as a trans woman in Turkey, a country known for its struggles with transphobia and violence against the transgender community, is both inspiring and essential to understanding the challenges faced by many. Hello, Şevval! Thank you for joining me today.

Şevval: Hi Monika!

Monika: You come from a country that is notorious for transphobia crimes, just to mention the murder of Neşe Dilşeker in 2012 and Dora Özer in 2013. Is Turkey not a country for transgender women?

Şevval: I wouldn’t say it that way but at the same time yes, the number of trans hate crimes is rising as never before. However, transphobia is everywhere with different levels, of course, from Japan to the USA, maybe Turkey is more gender-based-hypocritical.

Interview with Andrea James

Andrea James is an American transgender rights activist, filmmaker, and media consultant. Born on January 16, 1967, she holds a BA from Wabash College and an MA in English from the University of Chicago. Before transitioning, she spent a decade in advertising, including roles at the Chicago Tribune and DDB Chicago. In 1999, she founded Transgender Map, a pioneering online resource offering guidance and support for transgender individuals. In 2003, James co-founded Deep Stealth Productions with Calpernia Addams, aiming to create media by and for transgender people. Their notable projects include the first all-transgender performance of The Vagina Monologues, featured in the documentary Beautiful Daughters, and the film Transamerica. James has also contributed to various publications, including The Huffington Post, The Advocate, and Boing Boing.

 

Beyond her creative work, Andrea James is widely regarded as a trailblazer in transgender visibility and education. Her advocacy has helped shift public perceptions, encouraging respectful dialogue about transgender experiences and issues. Her work spans decades of activism, media production, and online community building, making her an influential voice in both the transgender and broader LGBTQ+ movements. Andrea is also deeply committed to mentoring and educating future generations. Through workshops, speaking engagements, and her online presence, she empowers transgender individuals with knowledge and confidence to navigate their own journeys. Her efforts have helped foster a more inclusive environment, inspiring many to embrace their identities proudly. 

Interview with Rajée Rajindra Narinesingh

Monika: Today, it is my pleasure and honor to interview Rajée Rajindra Narinesingh, an American transgender activist, author, actress, and public speaker who has made a significant impact in both the LGBTQ+ community and beyond. Rajée is best known for her autobiography Beyond Face Value, where she shares her deeply personal journey, including the traumatic experience of botched facial surgeries, as well as her advocacy for transgender rights.

In addition to her literary accomplishments, she has also made her mark on the entertainment industry, acting in notable roles such as Aunt Norma in the groundbreaking show Bella Maddo, an all-transgender production. Rajée’s activism extends far beyond the stage and page, as she has worked tirelessly to secure civil rights for transgender individuals and continues to inspire many with her commitment to justice, love, and self-acceptance. Hello Rajée!

Rajée: Hello Monika!

Interview with Jenna Fischetti

Monika: Today, I have the pleasure and honor of speaking with Jenna Fischetti, a remarkable woman whose advocacy has made a lasting impact on the transgender community in Maryland and beyond. Jenna is not only a dedicated transgender activist and advocate but also a contributor to The Transadvocate, where she amplifies the voices of trans individuals and sheds light on crucial issues. As the founder of TransMaryland, Jenna has worked tirelessly to provide support, education, and advocacy for transgender people and their allies, ensuring that they have the resources and protections they deserve. 

Her leadership extends to her years as a facilitator for the Gender Identity Groups at the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Community Center of Baltimore and Central Maryland (GLCCB), where she guided and empowered many in their journeys. With a deep commitment to justice and equality, Jenna has been at the forefront of legislative efforts, community-building initiatives, and grassroots activism, all aimed at improving the lives of trans people. It’s an honor to have her here today to share her experiences, insights, and vision for a more inclusive future. Jenna, welcome to the interview!

Jenna: Hello Monika!

Interview with Kayla Ward

Kayla Ward is a young American video blogger whose openness and courage have touched the hearts of many. Through her YouTube channel, she has been documenting her transition, sharing both the joys and challenges of her journey with refreshing honesty. Her videos have become a source of hope and encouragement for countless viewers who see in her story a reflection of their own struggles and dreams. Kayla’s positivity shines through in every word she speaks, as she embraces life with confidence and gratitude for finally living as her true self. She does not shy away from discussing the difficult moments, from the internal struggles of coming to terms with her identity to navigating societal expectations, making her story relatable and deeply human. Her authenticity allows viewers to connect with her on a personal level, offering reassurance that they too can find strength in embracing who they are.

 

Beyond her online presence, Kayla’s story is one of resilience, self-discovery, and quiet strength. She speaks openly about the personal challenges she faced along the way, including the pain of lost relationships, the fear of rejection, and the joy of newfound freedom. Her outlook on life reflects both optimism and wisdom, grounded in the belief that authenticity is worth every struggle. Whether discussing her love for fashion, her admiration for transgender trailblazers, or her hopes for greater equality, Kayla radiates warmth and sincerity. She has built a life that celebrates both her individuality and her connection to a broader community, showing that courage and vulnerability can coexist beautifully. Her journey is not only an inspiration to those within the transgender community but also a powerful reminder that happiness begins when we choose to live truthfully. Every step of her path encourages others to pursue their dreams, embrace their identities, and find joy in the process of becoming their most authentic selves.

Interview with Kayhar

Monika: Today, I have the pleasure of speaking with Kayhar, a multi-talented singer and trans activist whose journey has touched thousands. Known for her powerful vocals and deeply personal storytelling, she has documented her transition on YouTube in a way that is both artistic and inspiring. Her unique blend of music and activism has made a significant impact, and I’m thrilled to have her here today. Hello, Kayhar!

Kayhar: Hi Monika! Thank you for inviting me.

Monika: To start, could you tell us a little more about yourself?

Kayhar: Sure thing. My name is Kayhar, and I’m an artist and trans activist. Music and advocacy go hand in hand for me, and I try to use my voice in every way possible.

Monika: What inspired you to share your transition on YouTube?

Kayhar: I always wanted to make one of my own, but I wanted mine to be memorable. I also wanted an opportunity to introduce myself as a singer. Eventually, I came up with the idea to combine both in one video. It felt like the perfect way to blend my personal journey with my passion for music. Looking back, I wouldn’t have done it any other way.

Monika: You have two incredible videos on YouTube. Your first one, featuring a cover of Coldplay’s “Fix You,” has been viewed by over 330,000 people! That’s amazing!

Kayhar: Thank you! I’m aware of how fortunate I am to have had my story reach so many people. I hope that every other transition video out there receives the same amount of support as mine. It’s a reminder that visibility matters and can truly touch lives. Every comment and message I receive reminds me why I started this journey.

Monika: Your second video, “Battlefield,” is absolutely unique—you perform a duet with your pre-transition self. I’ve never seen anything like that before!

Kayhar: The idea for that video was also conceived with the concept of ‘memorable’ in mind. Luckily, I found an old video of myself pre-transition covering “Battlefield.” Clearly, the end result was a bit pitchy. However, the message came across quite well in my opinion. Trans women are a force to be reckoned with. I wanted to showcase how far I’ve come and honor my journey in a creative way. It was also an emotional experience, almost like a conversation with my past self.

Cover of Fix You - YouTube

Monika: Do you have any exciting new projects coming up?

Kayhar: Yes! I’m happy to announce that I will be launching a Kickstarter campaign to help me fund the production and release of my first EP. I’ve written an original song specifically for this campaign. I’m working on releasing a live performance (video) of that song with a band composed of trans women on the date of the Kickstarter campaign launch. It’s a project close to my heart, and I can’t wait to share it with the world. It’s more than just music, it’s a statement.

Monika: We have so many talented transgender singers—Justin Vivian Bond, Amanda Lear, Namoli Brennet, Canary Conn, Marie France, Dana International, Mina Caputo, Diamond Stylz, Laura Jane Grace, and many more. However, none have broken into the mainstream charts. Do you think we’ll see that change with you?

Kayhar: I certainly hope so. Mainstream America is craving something completely original. Our iPhones and music charts are chock full of pop stars whose careers are designed and built by LGBT people. However, very few LGBT people have made it to the top. Why is that? Why are we good enough to create art and trends, but never good enough to be the poster child for what WE create? This is true for transgender women specifically. We’re often mistaken for undesirable creatures with nothing much to offer other than a chuckle at our own expense, or a cheap discrete thrill (for most of our admirers). With the recent rise of talented, intellectual transgender women in the media, THIS WILL CHANGE. The industry is shifting, and I hope to be part of that movement. The world is ready for a transgender pop star.

Monika: When you began your transition, did you have any trans role models?

Kayhar: My lifelong friend (and transgender model) Giana Caceres served as my closest role model. She supported me when no one was even aware of my Gender Identity Disorder. With her help, I was able to begin my transition. Had I not experienced her journey to serve as a blueprint, I may have probably given in to my deep depression. Dina Marie Delicious also played an important part as a role model for me. I’m very grateful to have had these women to look up to. Role models are vital, and I hope to be that for someone else now. Representation truly saves lives. 

Monika: What was the hardest part of coming out?

Kayhar: Accepting MYSELF as a trans woman was probably the most difficult part. Coming to terms with my own gender wasn’t something I expected I’d have to do. I knew that other people would have an issue with it, but I wasn’t aware that I too would dislike the rituals of HRT, cosmetic procedures, announcements, and clarifications of my gender, dating, employment, etc. It’s all so exhausting. After about a year of the same routines, you reach a point where it no longer matters anymore. You learn not to care if you aren’t understood, as long as it doesn’t interfere with who you are. Self-acceptance is the foundation for everything else. Once I embraced myself, everything else fell into place.

"Accepting MYSELF as a Transwoman was
probably the most difficult part."

Monika: Are you politically active? Do you think transgender women can make a real impact in politics?

Kayhar: I’d like to see more trans women run for office. We lack sufficient representation of trans women in politics, as well as on the boards of LGBT-related organizations. As a result, we’re often cut out of legislation that supports the equal treatment of LGBT people. It’s important for us (trans people) to monitor & lead these organizations so that equality is secured for ALL LGBT people and not just some. Visibility in politics can help bring real change, and we need more voices at the table. The more of us who step up, the stronger we become as a community.

Monika: Let’s talk fashion! Do you love it? What kind of outfits do you usually wear? Any favorite trends?

Kayhar: Before my transition, I spent years as a Clubkid in the NYC nightlife scene. I consistently wore many of my own original pieces. Fashion is a big part of my life, and I think you’ll see that in my upcoming projects. Expression through clothing is empowering, and I love experimenting with style. Fashion is freedom.

Monika: Are you involved in your local LGBTQ+ community?

Kayhar: I try as much as I can to be a part of events in my local community.

Monika: Do you see marriage and family in your future? How important is love in your life?

Kayhar: I will someday have children of my own. That is a fact. Preferably, I’ll have a husband, a house, a white picket fence, and a family dog, too. All jokes aside, I do dream of that day, though at the moment my primary focus is my art. Love is beautiful, and I look forward to experiencing it fully. Until then, I’m married to my music.

Monika: What advice would you give to transgender women afraid of transitioning due to discrimination and hate?

Kayhar: I’d tell them to take a page out of Nike’s book: Just do it. Most of the things holding you back are in your head. The rest? It can be dealt with. Yes, discrimination and hate exist, but the world is changing. Don’t put off your happiness for a future that’s uncertain. Start living now.

Monika: What’s next for you? Where do you see yourself in five to seven years?

Kayhar: Right now, my top priority is my first EP. But my long-term goal? To be the first trans woman to earn a Grammy nomination. And my childhood dream? Performing live on Saturday Night Live, mark my words, it’s going to happen!

Monika: Would you say you’re a happy woman now?

Kayhar: Absolutely. Happiness is living authentically.

Monika: Kayhar, it was an absolute pleasure speaking with you. I hope that, just like in Fix You, “lights will guide you home and ignite your bones.” But let’s be clear—no one needs to “fix” you. You’re already amazing just as you are!

Kayhar: Thank you again, Monika. The pleasure was all mine.

All the photos: Courtesy of Kayhar.

© 2013 - Monika Kowalska

  

Interview with Esben Esther Pirelli Benestad

Monika: Today, I have the distinct honor of speaking with Esben Esther Pirelli Benestad, a trailblazing physician, sexologist, and professor of sexology. She is one of Norway’s most prominent transgender figures, advocating tirelessly for trans rights and visibility. Beyond her academic and medical contributions, she has been a political candidate for the Liberal Party and a television personality, competing in the reality show Skal vi danse in 2007. Her life and journey were also the subject of the acclaimed 2002 documentary All About My Father (Alt om min far), directed by her son, Even Benestad. Esther, welcome, and thank you for joining me today!

Esben Esther: Hello Monika! Thank you for including me in your wonderful series of interviews.

Monika: You have authored several important textbooks on transgender issues, including Kjønn i bevegelse (2001), Transseksualisme - hvor går vi og hvor står vi? (2002), Transekjønn og diagnoser (2004), and Sexologi i Praksis (2006). How has your own lived experience influenced your academic and literary work on gender and sexuality?

Esben Esther: For a long time, traditional therapeutic thinking emphasized neutrality, discouraging therapists from “over-identifying” with their clients. This led to the belief that homosexual individuals shouldn’t provide therapy for other homosexuals and that trans professionals shouldn’t work with trans clients. Interestingly, there was never a ban on heterosexual therapists working with heterosexual clients. Over time, this perspective has shifted, allowing personal experience to be recognized as a valuable professional asset. My own journey has reinforced my belief that “the personal IS the professional.”

Elsa and I, how to pose when Christmas
cards need Seasonal illustration.
Our niece Hanne in the middle.

Monika: In your studies and work, which aspects of transgender experiences have particularly captured your interest?

Esben Esther: I am deeply interested in all aspects of transgender life, from daily challenges to surgical advancements. However, I have increasingly moved away from the “wrong body” and “passing” narratives, as they often frame trans identities in limiting ways. Instead, I advocate for a broader understanding of gender expression that respects how individuals perceive themselves. Another crucial area of focus is sexuality, which is often overlooked in trans discussions.

Monika: How would you define your own gender identity and journey

Esben Esther: I wouldn’t describe it as a “case” but rather as the life path of a transgifted individual who, from an early stage, embraced and took pride in her gendered talents.

Monika: Have you ever considered undergoing a full medical transition?

Esben Esther: To me, any transition that leads a transgifted individual to a place of comfort and authenticity is a “full” transition. While I considered further medical steps, the personal and professional costs outweighed the benefits. Ultimately, I feel that my life would not have improved by going further.

Monika: The Justice Department initially refused to issue identity documents under the name Esther Pirelli, but the police later provided unofficial papers. That must have been a rather surreal experience.

Esther: Yes, it was! The justice department refused, and when I asked why, they replied that it would be too expensive and that it would threaten safety. I asked them: How come? They replied that they had closed the case.

A local policeman certified on a piece of paper with two pictures that both of them depicted the same individual: Me. He received a reprimand, and I got a piece of paper that amongst other accomplishments, got me out of Poland. Bureaucrats possess a very dangerous combination of tons of power with a lack of insights.

Twice I have been seriously catwalking
for Natalia Leikis, this is a charity
show for the Unicef.

Monika: What are the key transgender advocacy issues in Norway today?

Esben Esther: The health care offers to transgifted in Norway have been far away from ideal. Only one institution lead by a totally non-empathic psychiatrist rules over the fate of those who experience themselves as transsexuals.

Those who don’t, but nevertheless are in need of hormones and/or surgery, get nothing. Finally, the government officials have realized this unworthy state of affairs. I have been pointed out as one expert to be part of an official multidisciplinary group that is set out to change conditions for the better.

Monika: You have been involved in politics through the Liberal Party. Do you believe that transgender women can create meaningful change in the political landscape?

Esben Esther: I think all individuals of difference do make a difference when they find pride in themselves and are open in public life.

Monika: What do you think about transgender stories which have been featured in media, films, books, etc. so far?

Esben Esther: My son made a movie “All about my father” (“Alt om min far”) – a documentary that has earned more prizes than any other Norwegian movie. The film presents a son’s, a daughter’s, and a family’s perspective. I am not sheltered. I like that. I also like movies that depict transpeople as resources, not victims.

Monika: How do you recollect working with your son? Were you satisfied with the film?

Esben Esther: I am proud and happy with it, even though he at times portrays me in non-sympathetic ways. Our relation has always been very good, hence working together was filled with anticipation and pleasure.

Monika: Trans rights are often linked with broader LGBTQ+ advocacy. Do you think the trans community is sufficiently prioritized within the movement?

Esben Esther: At least in Norway it seems that we are, but we constantly need to educate our fellow queers.

Elsa and I, we travel a lot, ordinarily as part of the job.
10 days in Cape Town did us very well.

Monika: Is there anyone in Norway’s transgender movement who could be compared to Harvey Milk in terms of activism?

Esben Esther: Maybe me.

Monika: What was the most challenging part of coming out?

Esben Esther: My fears of being trashed. I believe that honesty and pride silenced those who might have tried.

Monika: In 2007, you competed on Skal vi danse (Shall We Dance), but you were eliminated after four episodes. You suggested that your transgender identity played a role in your early exit. How did that experience feel?

Esben Esther: That was the hardest task ever! To face a great audience when I was dancing in heels with a woman. Never ever was I more helplessly on display. It was truly hard but had it not been for the judges who named me number one out of the contest, the whole ordeal would have been a pleasure. The support from the Norwegian audience was remarkable.

Dancegirl and transgirl – for my
daughter Elisabeth's annual "Glamour night"
- open for all kinds of glamour.

Monika: Love plays an important role in everyone’s life. What does it mean to you?

Esben Esther: I have been married for 25 years to Elsa the great love of my life! Before that I was married 16 years with the mother of my two children: Elisabeth and Even, Tomas, Elsa’s son has entered my life as a third child. Together we have 4 grandchildren. The two oldest turned seven in 2013.

Monika: Do you enjoy fashion? What styles do you gravitate toward?

Esben Esther: I love the female body lines, and I am happy to see myself displaying lines like that. I have had many dresses, skirts, and blouses made for me. My favorite designer is Natalia Leikis, who has her studio in Oslo. People describe me as discretely elegant with some flamboyant inclinations.

Monika: Many transgender women eventually write memoirs. Have you considered documenting your journey in a book?

Esben Esther: Yes!

Monika: Would you say that you are a happy woman today?

Esben Esther: I am not a man, not a woman, but a very happy transperson!

Monika: Esther, thank you for the interview!

All the photos: courtesy of Esben Esther Pirelli Benestad.

© 2013 - Monika Kowalska

  

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Interview with Gina Leigh Duncan

Monika: oday, I have the absolute pleasure of speaking with Gina Leigh Duncan—an accomplished businesswoman, fierce transgender advocate, and all-around powerhouse! She has worn many hats: President of Orlando’s Gay Chamber of Commerce, former candidate for Commissioner of Orange County, Florida, senior manager at Wells Fargo, and currently, a Board Member at Equality Florida. Gina, welcome!

Gina: Hello, Monika, so nice to talk to you.

Monika: You’re a force in politics! Do you think transgender women can truly shake things up and make a real impact in the political world?

Gina: I do. While I think it critically important that we know the issues, have solutions, can be great communicators to motivate our constituents, we also bring an inherent acceptance of being transgender by gaining someone’s vote. We have an extra layer of objection to overcome. We might align with a voter in every area, yet they do not understand transgender people. I felt I just had to work that much harder and be that much sharper on the issues. Once in office, that thinking would continue with me. Work harder, be sharper, never let being transgender be an issue. Let it be an asset. I would want to use my office as a platform to educate people on what it means to be transgender.

Interview with Jennifer Leitham

Monika: Today it is my pleasure and honor to interview Jennifer Leitham, an American musician and double bass player, an inspirational and talented woman, subject of an award-winning documentary "I Stand Corrected"(2012), known for her 2006 album “The Real Me”. Hello Jennifer!

Jennifer: Hi Monika, Thank you for asking me to do this interview. I hope that my English will translate in an accurate manner, it can be an inaccurate language.

Monika: How did you start your musical career?

Jennifer: I didn’t have any musicians in my family, but I always was curious about music when I was growing up. The Beatles were probably my first musical influence. I was also intrigued by the music of Vince Guaraldi from the Peanuts holiday cartoons.

My first formal introduction to music came in high school when I joined the chorus. It revealed an aptitude for music and also was a great lesson in ear training. I sang some solos with the Chorale and that brought the attention of some of the rock musicians in my school.

I had always fooled around on a little toy guitar, playing along with my records, mostly melodies and bass lines. That ability translated to electric bass combined with my incredibly high singing voice made me a valuable band member.

Interview with Janice Covington

Janice Covington Allison is a fearless and outspoken transgender rights activist from Charlotte, North Carolina. Janice’s advocacy dates back to the 1980s, making her one of the early and enduring voices for transgender equality in the United States. Over the years, she has helped shape the visibility of our community, most notably as the first openly transgender woman from North Carolina to serve as a delegate at the 2012 Democratic National Convention. As the founder of TransCarolina, Janice created a vital space that addressed workplace rights while also building community and solidarity among transgender individuals across the South.

 

Her work with Get-Equal, local demonstrations, and tireless push for the Employment Non-Discrimination Act are just a few examples of her lifelong commitment to justice and inclusion. But beyond the accolades and activism, Janice is also a contractor, a storyteller, and someone who knows that change often begins with a conversation, whether on the campaign trail, at a construction site, or in line at the local theater. Join me now as we explore her remarkable journey, her reflections on political change, and the deep humanity that fuels her fight for equality.

Interview with Maria Haaning

Maria Haaning is a young transgender woman from Denmark, recognized as the youngest Danish person to undergo gender confirmation surgery. Born as a boy, Maria faced a challenging journey filled with physical and emotional pain, including suicide attempts and significant financial costs exceeding 100,000 kroner. However, her unwavering determination and belief that transitioning was the right choice ultimately led her to embrace her true identity as a woman. At just 18 years old, Maria made the life-changing decision to undergo gender reassignment surgery, fulfilling her lifelong dream of living in the body she felt she was meant to inhabit. Her transition was fraught with difficulties, as she faced bullying, rejection from peers, and isolation from her family and society. In her autobiography, "Ham og Mig" (Him and I), Maria shares her painful yet inspiring story of being marginalized and misunderstood while striving to be true to herself.

 

Maria's book not only recounts her personal experiences but also serves as a valuable resource for understanding the struggles faced by transgender individuals. Through candid reflections, she discusses the impact of bullying, the internal battles she fought, and her journey toward self-acceptance. With her story, Maria aims to educate others about transgender issues and promote empathy and understanding. Today, Maria is a public speaker, sharing her journey and advocating for transgender rights across Denmark. She has participated in various media appearances and has been featured in national magazines. Her experiences have positioned her as a role model for young transgender individuals, inspiring them to embrace their identities and pursue their dreams. As she continues her education in pharmacy, Maria is committed to living authentically and finding fulfillment in her personal and professional life. 

Interview with Rachel Pollack

Rachel Pollack, an acclaimed science fiction author, comic book writer, and Tarot grandmaster, has made a significant impact in literature and spirituality. Born in Brooklyn, New York, she graduated from New York University and Claremont Graduate University, building a legacy through her writing, which explores themes of identity, mythology, and the mystical arts. She is best known for her novels Unquenchable Fire (1989), Godmother Night (1997), and Temporary Agency (1995), as well as her groundbreaking work on Tarot. Her book 78 Degrees of Wisdom (1980) remains a cornerstone of modern Tarot interpretation, and she later designed her own deck, the Shining Woman Tarot, showcasing her deep understanding of symbols and mythology.

 

In the early ‘90s, Rachel brought her storytelling prowess to comics, taking over Doom Patrol for DC’s Vertigo imprint. Her run introduced bold, unconventional themes, including Coagula, one of the first transgender superheroes in mainstream comics. She is no stranger to breaking boundaries, her Arthur C. Clarke Award-winning Unquenchable Fire blends magical realism with visionary storytelling. Beyond fiction, Rachel Pollack is an educator, teaching at Goddard College and leading Tarot seminars worldwide. As a trans woman, she infuses her work with themes of identity and transformation, always pushing the boundaries of genre and convention.

Interview with Bianca Lewis

Monika: Today, I have the pleasure of speaking with Bianca Lewis, a video blogger from South Africa who has been sharing her transition journey on YouTube. Bianca’s life story is nothing short of extraordinary, she has lived through apartheid, battled bacterial meningitis, overcome paralysis, and navigated war zones. Now, she’s here to share her experiences with us. Welcome, Bianca!

Bianca: Hi Monika, and everybody, glad to share my views with you today. I hope my story resonates with those who need it most.

Monika: Could you introduce yourself to our readers?

Bianca: Well – I am definitely not defined by transition. Being female has always been a part of me that has experienced amazing journeys. I grew up in Apartheid South Africa, experienced bacterial meningitis with coma, then paralysis in a wheelchair for a year, love, divorce, death of almost all my family, the Middle East, war – and that is just the start of what has made me, well… me. Each challenge has shaped me into the strong woman I am today.

Monika: What inspired you to share your transition journey on YouTube?
Bianca: For many years just reading and seeing women who had the courage to transition helped me to see tomorrow. I thought I would try and do the same. Not very selflessly though, I have written an interesting book of my life story that I hope will inspire others to reach for their dreams. YouTube is a platform to create some awareness for the book before it is published – it will be virtually free as an ebook early 2014. I also hope that my experiences can offer guidance to those still contemplating their own journey. 
Monika: Where are you in your transition journey now?
Bianca: My transition is over and it will forever continue. Sorry – I know I am difficult. Socially, professionally and intimately I have been accepted by everybody as nothing but a woman for quite some time. But learning 40 years of life experience so quickly means I will playing catch up in some ways for the rest of my life. Physically – let's say I am "near" the end.

Enjoying my new femininity - going out
to the famous Tel Aviv nightlife.

Monika: Are you happy with the effects of hormone therapy?
Bianca: I honestly expected to take a pill and see Pamela Anderson in the mirror the next day. The effects of hormones (starting at 39 years old) were very limited physically. Emotionally, it made me much calmer, but physically? Thank goodness for surgery! Despite the limited changes, I wouldn’t trade the emotional stability and inner peace for anything.
Monika: Could you share some memories from your childhood? When did you first realize you were not meant to be a boy?
Bianca: Boy? Man? What were those? From my earliest memory, I never related to them! I felt like an outsider in my own skin, always wishing I could be like the other girls.
Monika: Many transgender women recall school and university as difficult periods due to discrimination. Was this the case for you?
Bianca: Really tough question because I remember how hard – and unique each stage of life was. From kindergarten through professional life, it was always an immense struggle to get through the day. I suppose adolescence was most torturous simply because I was a heterosexual female who had no way to discover or develop this, talk about all sorts of confusion! I often felt like I was living someone else’s life, just waiting for the day I could finally be me.
Monika: Did you have any transgender role models who inspired you?
Bianca: Before I transitioned I certainly admired Lynn Conway, Andrea James, Marcy Bowers, and the usual suspects as great role models for transition who have given so much to the community.
As I transitioned though I discovered that these women are all so much more than transition and my life is unique so my role models shifted away from gender toward human rights etc. more generally. I learned that identity is just one part of a much bigger picture of personal fulfillment.
Monika: What was the most challenging part of coming out?
Bianca: Not to be funny, but when you’ve lived as a middle-aged, 125kg bodybuilder, married to a woman with a child, and seen as a 'tough guy,' coming out is difficult in every possible way. That’s why I always say, transition is such a hard journey that a person should only travel this path if there is no choice. If you arrive at the other side of the gender spectrum in one piece, it is truly amazing though. Despite all the hardships, the freedom to be my true self has been worth it.
Monika: How do you perceive the current situation for transgender women in the U.S. and globally?

Bianca: As I have been in the States mainly on business, I have never had to deal with American society's views on transgenderism.

My passion: eating! This Mexican restaurant was
part of a fabulous night.

I will say this, though: All transgender persons want is to be accepted as a human being and EVERY Western society I have experienced have a long way to go. The fight for equality and dignity continues, but I remain hopeful that progress will be made.
Monika: We are seeing more transgender women in the public eye, from film directors to musicians and models. Do you think this trend will continue?
Bianca: Of course. As the stigma attached to being transgender diminishes, more and more of us will be willing to step into the limelight. It’s an interesting subject that deserves more attention because many trans individuals achieve great things despite immense internal struggles. When they make peace with themselves, their true ability is unleashed, and I expect more and more great trans people to come into the foreground. We are truly unique in our ability to look hardship in the face and come out on top. The visibility of trans people in all fields gives hope to those still in the shadows.
Monika: Are you involved in politics or any advocacy work? Do you think transgender women can influence political change?
Bianca: I believe anybody can make a difference in politics. I do believe that we need more representation in governments as we are still seen as "noise from the side" instead of a valuable contributor to society with a worthy voice. I live in Israel – so being active in politics would usually require a language that is often beyond me – but I am happy to make a noise!
Monika: Do you enjoy fashion? What are your go-to outfits, and do you follow any particular trends?
Bianca: I had my Cinderella time… Then I found that people actually stared at a 40-year-old in a tutu! I love clothes, shoes, and makeup. I am pretty senior at work, so usually get to do dress-up a bit – skirts, tights, and heels are usual. On the weekend I am happy in jeans and sneakers – my cool and ugly natural look!

I do not believe that we women drive as
badly as everybody tells me I do!

Monika: What are your thoughts on transgender beauty pageants?

Bianca: For those that want and need it why not? They should have age categories though! Seeing a 60 year flaunt a newly surgically arranged body next to that gorgeous 17-year-old Thai beauty just seems bizarre at times. Let me say, that personally, I have missed the boat. Although my son does say that I look at least a year younger than I actually am.
Monika: Are you involved with your local LGBT community?
Bianca: Not at all. I have met one or two trans girls by coincidence in the plastic surgery ward in the hospital, but I transitioned with friends I had long before and had to educate them. They have stood by me and are truly precious. As far as gay goes in the "LGBT" – well one of these really great friends (and one of my very dearest friends in the whole world) is gay, does that count?
Monika: Do you see marriage and family in your future? How important is love in your life?
Bianca: Firstly I have a 12-year-old son who is dear, precious, and my whole existence. Honestly, I would love to find love though, get married, and have somebody hold and love me. But beware, I am stubborn and do not compromise very well.
Monika: What advice would you give to transgender women who fear transitioning due to discrimination or hate?
Bianca: Again, the test is not fear – this is normal. The true recommendation is really whether you really have any other real option? If your essence is the opposite of what people see – truly – you will not have a choice and those fears will be overcome 1 day at a time – experience by experience. The people who love you will always love you… but this is easy to say now! The key is to find strength in yourself and surround yourself with supportive people who see and respect the real you.

Monika: What are your current goals, and where do you see yourself in the next 5-7 years?

Bianca: I really hope to stabilize my life. It has been such a dynamic and unsettling journey – peace would be a great gift to me. If I can bring joy and inspire others from my experiences, this would also give me great pleasure. In 5-7 years, I hope to have a stable life and be planning for an even brighter future. Perhaps by then, I will have written another book or taken on new challenges that help uplift others.

Monika: Would you say you are a happy woman today?

Bianca: No. I can say that I am happy being accepted as a woman now. My happiness does not come from being me (although this helps a hell of a lot); it comes from being a good parent and achieving my goals in life. Transition is but a part of it. Every day, I strive to find deeper contentment and new reasons to smile.

Monika: Bianca, it was a pleasure speaking with you. Thank you for sharing your story!
 

All the photos: courtesy of Bianca Lewis.

© 2013 - Monika Kowalska

  

Interview with True Scarlet

True Scarlet is an American video blogger and transgender advocate based in Florida. Known for her thoughtful and heartfelt YouTube channel, she has been documenting her transition journey in the hope of offering guidance, encouragement, and a sense of solidarity to others exploring their gender identity. Born Arrietta, she works as a Facility Maintenance Supervisor at a drug and alcohol treatment center and brings the same dedication to her professional life as she does to her advocacy. Now in her early thirties, True began publicly transitioning after spending years researching the psychological and biological aspects of being transgender, initially in private. Inspired by the stories of others she found online, she decided to share her own experience to "give back" and support those just beginning their path. With over a year of counseling, more than fourteen months on hormones, and her legal name and gender marker already changed, she continues to hit meaningful milestones with strength and optimism. A passionate hiker and avid reader, True blends curiosity, introspection, and resilience in everything she does. Whether she’s speaking to students in a college Human Sexuality class, helping organize local Trans Pride events, or simply offering a vulnerable moment of reflection on camera, True Scarlet stands as a quiet but powerful voice for authenticity, visibility, and hope.

Interview with Jenna Arriving1

Jenna Arriving1 is a London-based video blogger whose honest and heartfelt YouTube channel has touched the lives of countless transgender viewers. Now 38, Jenna has been documenting her transition with raw vulnerability and thoughtful reflection, offering a deeply personal window into the joys, struggles, and quiet triumphs of living authentically as a transgender woman. Her journey spans decades, beginning with an early attempt to transition at 16, followed by detransition, and ultimately returning to her truth in her mid-thirties. Two years into hormone replacement therapy and one year post-facial feminization surgery, Jenna continues to share candid updates, emotional insights, and practical advice for others navigating similar paths. Her vlogs aim not just to educate, but to comfort and empower, especially for those who may feel isolated or unsure of their place in the world. Jenna's perspective is rooted in resilience, humility, and a deep desire for love and connection. She may not be active in politics or local activism, but through her online presence, she champions visibility and reminds others that their stories matter too. Whether reflecting on childhood memories with her twin brother, navigating heartbreak, or exploring the complexities of style and identity, Jenna brings humor, humanity, and grace to every part of her transition story. She’s not just documenting a transformation, she’s helping others see what’s possible when you choose to be yourself.

Interview with Jessica Tiffany

In the ever-growing landscape of transgender visibility online, some voices cut through the noise not just with honesty, but with a quiet kind of courage. Jessica Tiffany, a 27-year-old video blogger from Canada, is one of those voices. Known to her followers on YouTube as “cuteypietiffany,” she’s been documenting her transition for nearly two years, sharing vulnerable truths, small victories, and the sometimes messy process of becoming who you truly are. Her vlogs are unfiltered, often funny, and always heartfelt. What started as a spontaneous post on Reddit soon grew into an online chronicle of self-discovery that has touched countless viewers around the world.

 

In this candid conversation, Jessica opens up about the complexity of gender identity, the tension between kink and authenticity, her journey with hormones, and the emotional rollercoaster of coming out. We talk about everything from Sailor Moon to psychological assessments, Chelsea Manning to self-bondage, passing to Pride, and the moments that made her feel most alive, and most seen. Jessica doesn’t pretend to have all the answers, but she asks the right questions, and that’s what makes her story so deeply relatable. Let’s dive into our chat with a young woman who reminds us that being true to yourself isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth it.

Interview with Meggan Sommerville

Today, I have the pleasure of interviewing Meggan Sommerville, a passionate transgender advocate, writer, and blogger from Oswego, Illinois. Beyond her activism, Meggan has a diverse professional background, having worked as a veterinary technician, EMT/paramedic, EMS instructor, and a paid on-call firefighter. For the past 15 years, she has been a frame shop manager for a national craft retailer, where she helps customers preserve cherished memories through custom framing.

However, Meggan is perhaps best known for her courage in standing up for transgender rights. In 2011, she made headlines when she filed a complaint with the Illinois Department of Human Rights (IDHR) after being denied access to the women's restroom at her workplace. Her case became a pivotal moment in the fight for transgender equality in workplace policies.

Interview with Michelle Hendley

Monika: Today, I have the pleasure of chatting with Michelle Hendley, a talented young actress and video blogger who has been documenting her transition on YouTube. With her warm personality and candid storytelling, Michelle has become an inspiring voice within the online transgender community. In addition to sharing her pMichelle's Transition Timelineersonal journey, she is also a cosmetology student with big dreams ahead. Michelle, welcome to the interview!

Michelle: Hello Monika!

Monika: Could you say a few words about yourself?

Michelle: Hmm, well I am 22 years old, I live in Missouri (USA) and I am a cosmetology student.