In a world where visibility can be both a shield and a sword, Mayra Viamonte stands tall, with humor, intelligence, and unapologetic honesty. A Brazilian video blogger, professional translator, and proudly bigender woman, Mayra has made space for herself in the digital landscape, documenting her transition not only as a form of self-expression but as an act of quiet rebellion and public education. Through her candid storytelling and relatable charm, she invites others to learn, reflect, and laugh along the way. Mayra lives in Rio de Janeiro, a city known for its colorful contradictions, much like the journey of gender itself. She is engaged to a wonderful cisgender woman who, as Mayra lovingly puts it, is the person without whom she would be nothing. Her femininity doesn’t conform to society’s rigid ideals, nor does it need to.
Whether she’s critiquing beauty pageants, reflecting on childhood solitude, or sharing her fashion favorites (including her beloved flare jeans and cropped tops), Mayra radiates confidence in a way that transcends binaries. She speaks openly about the joys and trials of her hormone therapy, the complexity of being seen as a woman in a misogynistic society, and the raw truth behind Brazil’s trans realities. Yet through it all, she remains fiercely optimistic, grounded in love, and unafraid to speak her truth, even when it challenges convention. In this interview, you’ll meet a woman who doesn’t just transition her body, but transforms the way we think about gender, resilience, and what it means to live honestly. Mayra Viamonte is not just a voice from Brazil, she’s a voice for anyone searching for strength in authenticity.
Monika: Hello, Mayra! It’s such a pleasure to connect with a sister from Brazil. I’m thrilled to include your voice in this series, where I highlight trans individuals as powerful possibility models. How do you feel about being seen as an inspiration to others?
Mayra: Hello, Monika. Interesting proposition, to list trans personalities as possibility models. I'm glad to be one of them. It’s a bit surreal, to be honest. I never started sharing my story with the goal of being inspirational, but I’m deeply honored if others find strength in it. Sometimes, just existing openly and authentically becomes a form of activism, whether we intend it or not. I think we all need to see someone who reminds us of ourselves thriving, even if imperfectly. If my visibility helps someone feel less alone or more hopeful, then it’s all been worth it.
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Monika: For those who are just getting to know you, how would you introduce yourself? What are some of the key things that shape who you are, beyond just your transition?
Mayra: More than a few words, like “narcissistic” and “gorgeous.” Jokes aside, I’m a lesbian trans woman, which confuses a lot of people. I’m a professional translator, working from my home PC, and I’m engaged to a cis woman who is wonderful in many ways. I’ve always been someone who values introspection and quiet strength. I spend a lot of time with language, not just because of my job, but because I love how words can build bridges between people. I’m deeply loyal to those I love, and I believe in living as honestly as possible. Humor is my armor, but it’s also my way of reaching out to the world.
Monika: Sharing one's transition journey publicly takes courage. What motivated you to document your experience online, and what do you hope people take away from it?
Mayra: Actually, the YouTube profile is just a part of my personal blog. Both, however, serve a twofold purpose. Through them, I aim to inspire other trans people and educate everyone else about us. Visibility can be a powerful tool, especially in a world that often misunderstands or erases us. I wanted to demystify what it means to be trans by showing the everyday moments, both the challenges and the joys. Not everyone has someone in their life who is trans, so this was my way of saying, “Here we are.” It’s also helped me process my own journey more clearly, by putting it into words and images.
Monika: How would you describe your current stage in your transition journey? What changes have you embraced, and what feels most complete for you right now?
Mayra: At “mission complete.” I’ve had facial surgery and breast implants. I have no desire for SRS, and my social life is fully feminine. My documents haven’t been changed, and I don’t plan to change them. For me, transition isn’t about ticking boxes, it's about reaching a point where I feel at home in my body and daily life. I’ve built a routine where I’m gendered correctly by those around me, and that matters more to me than paperwork. Physical comfort and social affirmation were always my main goals. In that sense, I already live the life I dreamed of, and that’s what truly counts.
Monika: Many transgender women have a variety of experiences with hormone therapy. Looking back, how do you feel about the physical and emotional effects it’s had on you?
Mayra: To an extent, yes. A generous extent, mind you, as I gained a butt and a pair of thighs of which I’m proud, and I still kept a good dosage of muscle. It has a negative impact on erections, however, but it’s hard to eat and whistle at the same time, for anyone. Overall, I feel more aligned with myself physically, and that brings a kind of inner peace I never had before. There are trade-offs, of course, but they’re ones I accepted knowingly. It’s fascinating to see how hormones subtly reshape not just your body, but also your emotions and energy. I’ve grown more patient, more self-aware, and oddly, more in tune with the world around me.
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Monika: Looking back on your early years, what kind of child were you? And when did you first sense that your gender identity didn’t align with what others expected of you?
Mayra: My childhood, like my adolescence, was very solitary. I’ve always preferred the company of computer games and animals to that of people. However, that’s a part of me independently from the dysphoria. I began to desire a female build at around 10 years of age, and put that desire into words at 15, after some internet research.
I remember being drawn to certain characters or aesthetics that felt more like me, even if I couldn’t articulate why at the time. There was a quiet longing I carried, one I kept hidden from everyone. Discovering that I wasn’t alone, thanks to online forums and stories, was both a shock and a relief. It helped me realize that what I was feeling had a name, and more importantly, that it was valid.
Monika: Many transgender women describe their school or university years as particularly painful due to bullying, isolation, or discrimination. Did you face similar challenges during your education, or was your experience different?
Mayra: Not really, no. School wasn’t a problem since I was your run-of-the-mill introverted boy. I transitioned during my university course, though, and could have had problems there. Maybe due to some dose of personal charisma, maybe due to the fact I live in Rio – a reasonably cosmopolitan city – or something else, I faced little opposition. However, I did get constantly called by my male name, so if that was something that hurt me more deeply, I would have felt worse about that time.
I was fortunate to have professors who judged me more on academic performance than personal identity. I also found a small group of friends who accepted me without question, which helped tremendously. That said, it wasn’t entirely smooth , there were moments of tension and awkwardness I had to navigate carefully. Still, I know my story could have been far more difficult in another place or context.
Monika: Do you have any transgender figures, real or fictional, who have influenced or inspired you along your journey? Are there individuals whose stories or presence have helped shape your perspective or confidence?
Mayra: Not really. The fact that I know many trans people have professional success inspires me, but no one specifically. On the fiction side, I love the character Poison, from Capcom. A trans girl, sexy as fuck, with a great attitude and kicking asses left and right. What is not to love? She was one of the first characters I saw who embraced her femininity with power and flair. It made a strong impression on me when I was still figuring myself out. I admire how unapologetically bold she is, even if she exists in a fictional universe. Characters like her give us a sense of visibility, even when real-life representation is still catching up.
Monika: What would you say was the most challenging part of coming out, both emotionally and socially? Were there specific moments that made you question your decision or test your resilience?
Mayra: Being seen as a woman. Ironically enough, what gives me more trouble is being passable. In an extremely misogynistic society, I have to face dozens of daily oppressions, offenses, and sexual propositions just by walking down the street. Hence the choice of a career path I can follow from my home. People often assume that being read as cis is the goal, but they don’t realize it comes with its own kind of visibility, and danger. The world doesn’t treat women kindly, especially not trans women. I constantly have to assess my safety, even in the most mundane situations. Still, I wouldn’t go back. Living authentically is worth every challenge.
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| The girl without whom she would be nothing, her fiancée. |
Monika: How would you describe the current social and economic situation for transgender women in Brazil? What are the biggest challenges they face in everyday life and society at large?
Mayra: Fucked up. Brazil is internationally known for its large portfolio of prostitution. The sum of that with the sexism present here, which causes that many children to be thrown out of their houses still very young when they reveal themselves as transsexuals, forces them to find a way to fend for themselves. Wanna guess how?
Many are left with little choice but to enter sex work to survive, often facing violence and discrimination. Access to healthcare, education, and employment is severely limited for trans women. Despite these hardships, there is a growing movement of resilience and activism pushing for change. It’s a difficult path, but slowly, visibility and rights are improving.
Monika: Transgender women around the world are increasingly visible and gaining recognition in diverse fields, from film and music to academia and modeling. Have you noticed a similar rise in Brazil? Are trans women becoming more accepted and celebrated in professional and public life there?
Mayra: Despite what I said in the previous question, we are on a slow ascent. People have begun to recognize professional capabilities in us, and there are people popping up in different fields. Recently, even a police officer of very high rank transitioned and now is responsible for the Woman’s Police. Who would have thought?
This growing visibility is encouraging and helps break down stereotypes, showing that trans women can thrive in any career. Still, acceptance varies widely depending on the region and social circles. There is progress, but the journey toward full equality and respect remains ongoing. Every new success story builds hope for those coming after us.
Monika: Do you engage in political activism or advocacy for transgender rights? Have you participated in any lobbying efforts? More broadly, how do you see the potential impact of transgender women in shaping political change in Brazil?
Mayra: I think transgender women can make a difference, but I don’t participate myself. Politics in this country is corrupt and violent. My first desire is to leave. That said, I deeply respect those who stay and fight despite the risks. Political involvement can be a powerful tool to challenge discrimination and create safer spaces. Change often starts with brave individuals willing to speak up, even when the environment feels hostile. Though I’m cautious, I hope to see more trans voices influencing policy and society in the future.
Monika: How do you relate to fashion? What styles or outfits do you prefer to wear daily? Are there particular designers, colors, or trends that inspire your wardrobe choices?
Mayra: Reasonably so, yeah. I’m commonly seen wearing a pair of jeans, flare-style, to help disguise feet that are slightly longer than average for women, and a short top. Short as in, right below the boobs. Indeed, I’m proud of my shape and don’t mind showing it off. On days when I feel a bit more feminine, I go for a t-shirt and short… shorts. I know, weird phrasing. Black and other dark colors are my go-to. I’m not much into accessories or makeup, just the basics.
Comfort is key for me, so I tend to avoid anything too flashy or restrictive. I also appreciate clothes that allow me to express confidence without drawing unwanted attention. Sometimes I experiment with textures to add subtle variety. Overall, I want to feel authentic and comfortable in what I wear every day.
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Monika: What is your perspective on transgender beauty pageants? Do you think they help advance the community or reinforce problematic ideas?
Mayra: They are usually bullshit. Firstly, I’ve personally witnessed a few, and most contestants are very poor in terms of formal education. Second, the whole concept is based on the wrong principles. In most of these pageants, the girls purposely hide their penises, even though I know for a fact not all of them plan on removing it. We aren’t here to fit into the man-woman binary, we’re here to challenge it.
Beauty pageants often reinforce superficial standards that don’t reflect the true diversity of trans experiences. They can create unnecessary pressure to conform to conventional femininity rather than celebrating individuality. I believe our community should focus more on empowerment and visibility in all aspects of life, not just appearance. Real progress comes from breaking stereotypes, not reinforcing outdated norms.
Monika: How connected are you to your local LGBT community? Do you participate in events or support networks on the ground?
Mayra: I’m somewhat known on the national web scene, and I talk to and inspire a lot of people before and during their transitions. Not much beyond that, though. Being more active locally is challenging for me because of time and personal boundaries. Still, I believe that even online support can make a huge difference. Sometimes just sharing my story helps others feel less alone. I’m open to becoming more involved when the right opportunity comes along. Building community is important, but it has to be on terms that feel safe and meaningful to me.
Monika: What advice would you give to transgender women who feel scared about starting their transition early, facing discrimination, or encountering hatred?
Mayra: Having a steady income is a good priority to aim for. It doesn’t have to be your own, a relative who you know will support you through your early years will do. Usually, a good deal of prior research helps, so you can show people you know what you’re talking about. And be aware of your surroundings. Don’t try doing that kind of thing in Moscow, where people are being murdered for being gay. Try to be somewhere more accepting, if possible. Surround yourself with supportive people who respect your journey. Remember, self-care and mental health matter just as much as physical transition. It’s okay to take your time and move at your own pace. You are not alone, and there is strength in community.
Monika: What are your immediate plans, and how do you envision your life unfolding over the next five to seven years?
Mayra: My next step is moving in with my fiancée. She and I are planning our careers for this year and intend to be living under the same roof before 2015. In five to seven years, we’ll probably be having our child, if things go well financially. I’m excited about building a stable, loving home together. I also hope to continue growing professionally while supporting her ambitions. Family life and career balance will definitely be a priority. Most importantly, I want to live authentically and happily, surrounded by the people I love.
Monika: Would you say that you are a happy woman now?
Mayra: I wouldn’t say I’m strictly a woman (I’m bigender), but I’d definitely say I’m happy. I love my girl, I like my job, and I like myself. Not much else one can desire. Happiness, for me, comes from embracing all parts of who I am. I’m learning every day to accept myself more deeply and to celebrate my unique identity. Life still has its challenges, but I face them with strength and optimism. Ultimately, joy comes from living authentically and being surrounded by love.
Monika: Mayra, it was a pleasure to interview you. Thanks a lot!
Mayra: Thank you for giving me the opportunity.
All the photos: courtesy of Mayra Viamonte.
© 2014 - Monika Kowalska
