Cadence W. Matthews is a multifaceted Canadian artist and advocate known for her work in the hair extension industry, as well as her pursuits in acting, singing, and other artistic endeavors. At 27, she has established herself as a vibrant presence in both creative and LGBTQ+ communities. From a young age, Cadence recognized her true identity, expressing feelings of being different as early as age three. Her journey of self-discovery and transition was gradual, marked by resilience in the face of societal challenges. Throughout her school years, she faced bullying but remained steadfast in expressing her authentic self, often wearing makeup and carrying a purse to school from the age of 13. Cadence's commitment to authenticity extends beyond her personal life. She believes in the importance of sharing her transition story to foster visibility and support within the transgender community.
While she has experienced anxiety and panic attacks, particularly during her transition to living full-time as a woman, she continues to advocate for self-acceptance and mental well-being. Inspired by figures like Candis Cayne, Cadence admires those who embody talent, eloquence, and grace. She acknowledges the progress made in transgender visibility, especially in Canada, and celebrates the achievements of individuals like Jenna Talackova, whom she knows personally and describes as "sweet as pie and absolutely stunning." Though not directly involved in politics, Cadence supports the active participation of transgender individuals in political spheres, recognizing the impact they can make. Her passion for fashion reflects her dynamic personality, embracing a range of styles from edgy biker chic to elegant ensembles. Cadence W. Matthews exemplifies courage, creativity, and advocacy, making her a compelling figure in discussions surrounding gender identity, artistic expression, and community empowerment.
Monika: Hello Cadence! It’s truly a pleasure to speak with such a multi-talented and inspiring woman. How are you feeling today?
Cadence: Hi Monika! Thank you for having me. I really admire your work. I’m feeling excited and grateful to be here, and I’m looking forward to our conversation. It’s always meaningful to share space with someone who uplifts our community.
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| With her fiancé. |
Monika: Could you tell us a little more about yourself and your work? What drives your passions and creative pursuits?
Cadence: Well, I am 27, I work in the hair extension industry, as well as doing some acting, singing, and other artistic pursuits. I’ve always been drawn to creative expression in all forms, and I love how each art form lets me connect with people in different ways. I also enjoy using my platform to inspire others, especially those who might be on their own journeys of self-expression and acceptance.
Monika: What inspired you to share the details of your transition with the public, and how do you hope it impacts others?
Cadence: I think it’s important to share my journey as a way of giving back to the community. Trans visibility has only recently increased in a positive way, and I want to be a part of that. By being open about my experiences, I hope others feel empowered to embrace their true selves without fear. It’s about creating a space where people can find comfort, understanding, and strength in their own transitions.
Monika: Where would you say you are in your transition journey at this point, both physically and emotionally?
Cadence: I will always be wanting something else done. Right now I'm taking time to focus on the internal. I've realized that emotional growth and self-acceptance are just as vital as any physical changes. It’s a lifelong process, and I’m learning to honor each stage as it comes.
Monika: Are you happy with how hormone therapy has worked for you so far, both physically and emotionally?
Cadence: Yes, absolutely. My shape is much more feminine and I feel more "right" emotionally, if a little unbalanced at times. The changes have helped me feel more aligned with who I truly am inside. It's a powerful reminder of how affirming medical care can be for trans people.
Monika: Could you share a bit about your childhood? When did you first feel that being a boy or man didn’t align with who you truly were?
Cadence: I expressed those feelings at age three and spent many years clashing with my father about what was "appropriate". I always liked "girly" things. I always spoke and moved more like a girl than a boy. My transition was more of a slow progression from age 3 onward than it was a conscious decision. Looking back, it feels like I was always just becoming more myself with each passing year. Even when I didn’t have the language for it, I knew something inside me didn’t match what others expected.
Monika: Many transgender girls describe school, college, or university as especially difficult due to bullying and discrimination. Did you have similar experiences during your school years?
Cadence: I was bullied pretty badly in elementary and high school. From 13 onwards I wore makeup and a purse to school every day. It wasn't easy, but that's who I was. I've always been true to my own desires and feelings. Looking back, I’m proud of my younger self for having the courage to be visible despite the negativity. Those experiences shaped my strength and resilience in ways I carry with me today.
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| With black hair. |
Cadence: Candis Cayne. I think she is monumentally talented, eloquent, and classy. She's a proper lady, and I respect that. Her confidence and grace in the public eye really made an impression on me. She showed me that it’s possible to be both strong and feminine without compromise.
Monika: What would you say was the most challenging part of coming out and beginning to live openly as yourself?
Cadence: I suffer from anxiety, and going "full time" resulted in some very severe panic attacks over a period of several years. I still experience them, but not as often or as severely. Learning to manage my mental health became just as important as navigating the physical aspects of transition. Each step forward took immense emotional strength, but it also taught me how resilient I really am.
Monika: How do you perceive the current situation of transgender women in Canada? Do you feel the country is moving in the right direction when it comes to trans rights and visibility?
Cadence: Canada is a good place to be. We have a long way to go, like everywhere, but I imagine it is better than many places in America or, say, Russia, obviously! There’s a basic level of legal protection here that gives some peace of mind, and that’s important. But social acceptance still varies depending on where you live, urban centers are generally more inclusive than rural areas. Trans women still face discrimination in healthcare, employment, and housing. The media is getting better at including our voices, but we’re not quite at a place of full representation yet. It’s also crucial that we continue to uplift trans women of color and ensure no one is left behind in our progress. I’m hopeful, though, because the younger generation seems much more open and willing to advocate for change.
Monika: We’re seeing more and more transgender women stepping into the spotlight, and some have even achieved celebrity status, like Lana Wachowski in film, Jenna Talackova in modeling, Kate Bornstein in academia, Laura Jane Grace in music, and Candis Cayne in acting. Is this trend of increased visibility reflected in Canada as well, or does Jenna Talackova remain the standout figure?
Cadence: We have some local-celebrity status spread through the community here, but Jenna certainly grabbed the spotlight with her fight to compete for Miss Universe. I know Jenna a bit, and she is very deserving of the attention. She is sweet as pie and absolutely stunning. It's wonderful to see all the positive attention she's received. Her story really broke barriers and gave a lot of young trans women hope that they could dream big too. That kind of visibility is so important for challenging stereotypes and opening doors. While there are other amazing trans women doing great things in Canada, Jenna's platform reached a global audience. I’d love to see more Canadian trans voices lifted up in the mainstream. We have the talent and the stories, it’s just a matter of creating space for them.
Monika: Are you personally involved in politics or any lobbying campaigns? And more broadly, do you believe transgender women can play a meaningful role in shaping political discourse and decision-making?
Cadence: I, personally, am not. But many women here in Vancouver are involved in politics and that is fantastic. I'd like to believe that anyone can make a difference if they want to badly enough. Representation matters, and seeing trans women in political spaces helps challenge outdated norms. Even just being visible in those environments can inspire others to speak up and get involved.
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| Another face of Cadence. |
Monika: Are you passionate about fashion? How would you describe your personal style, and do you have any favorite outfits, colors, or trends that you’re drawn to?
Cadence: I love fashion. I love extremes. One day I'm a biker chick in a leather jacket and engineer boots, the next I'm in pearls and a blazer. I wear a lot of black right now; I feel that it looks very polished. I think it's all about the bag. I wear my Louis Vuitton Speedy 40 pretty much everywhere. She's my baby. Fashion for me is about versatility and expressing different sides of my personality. I also think it’s empowering to wear what feels authentic to you, no matter what’s trending.
Monika: What are your thoughts on transgender beauty pageants? Do you think they’re a positive way to celebrate trans women, or do they have their challenges?
Cadence: I think it's great! What fun! As long as you're not taking the potential criticism to a place of damaging your self-esteem, why not? Pageants can be a platform for trans women to showcase their confidence and beauty, and they can help challenge societal expectations. Of course, it's important to remember that beauty isn’t one-dimensional, and there’s so much more to who we are. It’s about embracing individuality and showing the world that trans women are just as capable of shining in any space.
Monika: How involved are you in your local LGBTQ+ community? Do you engage with any specific groups or causes that are important to you?
Cadence: Very! I try to work with trans youth and their families as much as I can. The future of our community is in their hands, after all! It's incredibly rewarding to help them navigate their journeys and provide support. I believe that mentorship is key, and empowering the younger generation ensures we build a more inclusive and understanding future.
Monika: What advice would you give to transgender women who are hesitant to transition early because of fear of discrimination or hatred?
Cadence: Everyone has their own life. They are busy living theirs. You have got to do the same. No one else knows what is right for you and no one else can take control of your destiny. You owe it to yourself to live your truth proudly. It isn't easy, but that's how you know it's worth it! Transitioning is a personal journey, and although the world may not always be kind, embracing your true self brings a sense of peace that nothing else can. The fear of judgment fades when you realize your happiness and authenticity are far more important than others' opinions.
Monika: What are your current goals or next steps, and where do you envision yourself in the next 5 to 7 years?
Cadence: I'm going back to school for PR and would like to have further FFS in the future, among other procedures. I am engaged at the moment, so in 5-7 years, I'd like to be married and thinking about kids! I see myself continuing to grow both personally and professionally, balancing my career with family life. It’s exciting to think about where I’ll be, and I hope to inspire others along the way by living my truth.
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| "My Transition" via YouTube. |
Monika: Would you say you are truly happy with who you are now?
Cadence: Absolutely. I have my bad days, but I have never regretted transition. Being myself is one thing that is a constant source of pride in my life. It is my greatest achievement! There’s a deep sense of fulfillment in living authentically, and while challenges still arise, they don’t compare to the joy of embracing my true self. Happiness, for me, comes from knowing that I’m finally aligned with who I was always meant to be.
Monika: Cadence, it’s been an absolute pleasure interviewing you. Thank you so much for sharing your time and experiences!
All the photos: courtesy of Cadence Matthews.
© 2014 - Monika Kowalska
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