Interview with Miss saHHara

Miss saHHara is a British-Nigerian beauty queen, model, singer, and pioneering human rights advocate. In 2014, she made history as the first black transgender woman to be crowned winner of Super Sireyna Worldwide in the Philippines. She had previously become the first Nigerian trans woman to come out publicly through her participation in Miss International Queen 2011 in Thailand, where she earned the title of first runner-up. These achievements marked a turning point for transgender visibility, especially for African LGBTQ+ individuals. Born and raised in a conservative village in northern Nigeria, Miss saHHara endured severe bullying, abuse, and imprisonment simply for expressing her identity. After surviving two suicide attempts, she fled to the UK in 2004, determined to live freely and authentically. In London, she found community, began her gender-affirming journey, and flourished in her education, earning a Master’s degree in Digital Media from London Metropolitan University in 2011. Beyond pageantry, Miss saHHara has walked the runway at London Fashion Week, graced the covers of magazines, and held a long-standing music residency in London. Through her visibility and activism, Miss saHHara has challenged transphobia, especially in Nigeria, where anti-LGBTQ+ laws threaten lives. She remains a powerful voice for human rights and a symbol of resilience, beauty, and self-determination.

Interview with Kat Haché

Kat Haché is a transgender woman, writer, and video blogger from East Tennessee who shares her transition journey on YouTube. Currently pursuing a master’s degree in archival studies, she is passionate about trans representation and preserving diverse transgender narratives. Kat began documenting her experience to challenge stereotypes and inspire others with authentic, personal storytelling. An advocate for self-acceptance and visibility, she has spoken out on trans issues through campus panels, articles, and educational workshops. She draws strength from her community and role models like Parker Molloy and Laura Jane Grace. With a love for fashion, a hopeful outlook, and a drive to follow her bliss, Kat continues to empower others by being unapologetically herself.

 

Monika: Hello, Kat. Thank you so much for joining me and the readers of my blog! How are you?

Kat: Hello Monika! Thanks for reaching out to interview me. I’m doing well and really looking forward to our conversation.

Monika: For those just getting to know you, could you tell us a bit about yourself?

Kat: Well, I am a transgender woman from East Tennessee. I’m currently in graduate school, working toward my master’s in archival studies. I’m especially interested in trans representation and the diversity of transgender narratives within archives. I believe our stories deserve to be preserved and made accessible for future generations.

Interview with Addie Vincent

Addie Vincent is a proud senior at Chapman University, majoring in Peace Studies and making waves both on and off campus. Born in Canada and raised in Michigan, Addie now calls sunny California home. Identifying as a genderqueer Trans* person and using they/them pronouns, Addie made history at Chapman as the first transgender contestant in Delta Tau Delta’s philanthropy pageant, earning the beloved title of Miss Congeniality for their charisma, kindness, and advocacy. Beyond the pageant spotlight, Addie is a passionate voice for Trans* visibility and equality. Inspired by trailblazers like Cassidy Lynn Campbell, Laverne Cox, and Janet Mock, they channel their activism into action, whether by organizing for LGBTQ+ rights, dreaming of founding a shelter for homeless queer youth in Orange County, or working to establish a gender-neutral, service-focused “frarority” on campus. Addie’s vision extends to a future where they continue to empower others, possibly as a midwife, nonprofit founder, public speaker, or all of the above. In a world still grappling with transmisogyny and ignorance, Addie stands as a radiant example of resilience, leadership, and heart. With deep gratitude for the love and support of their community, they remain committed to creating safe, inclusive spaces, and reminding others that they are capable of anything.

Interview with Cadence Matthews

Cadence W. Matthews is a multifaceted Canadian artist and advocate known for her work in the hair extension industry, as well as her pursuits in acting, singing, and other artistic endeavors. At 27, she has established herself as a vibrant presence in both creative and LGBTQ+ communities. From a young age, Cadence recognized her true identity, expressing feelings of being different as early as age three. Her journey of self-discovery and transition was gradual, marked by resilience in the face of societal challenges. Throughout her school years, she faced bullying but remained steadfast in expressing her authentic self, often wearing makeup and carrying a purse to school from the age of 13. Cadence's commitment to authenticity extends beyond her personal life. She believes in the importance of sharing her transition story to foster visibility and support within the transgender community. 

 

While she has experienced anxiety and panic attacks, particularly during her transition to living full-time as a woman, she continues to advocate for self-acceptance and mental well-being. Inspired by figures like Candis Cayne, Cadence admires those who embody talent, eloquence, and grace. She acknowledges the progress made in transgender visibility, especially in Canada, and celebrates the achievements of individuals like Jenna Talackova, whom she knows personally and describes as "sweet as pie and absolutely stunning." Though not directly involved in politics, Cadence supports the active participation of transgender individuals in political spheres, recognizing the impact they can make. Her passion for fashion reflects her dynamic personality, embracing a range of styles from edgy biker chic to elegant ensembles. Cadence W. Matthews exemplifies courage, creativity, and advocacy, making her a compelling figure in discussions surrounding gender identity, artistic expression, and community empowerment.

Interview with Amanda Watson

Before we dive into our lovely chat, let me introduce you to the fabulous Amanda Nicole Watson. She’s a 46-year-old transgender woman from California’s Central Valley who somehow manages to juggle a career in healthcare, LGBTQ+ advocacy, and a healthy sense of humor, all while still looking effortlessly cool (plain Jane, she says… we say understated chic). Amanda’s story is anything but boring. She served in the U.S. Navy, worked in mental health, and now dedicates her energy to making the healthcare world more inclusive for everyone, especially transgender folks who’ve spent too long being misunderstood or overlooked. She’s the kind of woman who speaks out, shows up, and stands tall, even if she’s just trying to get through another staff meeting. She started her transition in her thirties, but she knew from the age of five that she was a girl, only the world around her needed a few decades to catch up. 

 

With the help of a few guardian angels in the San Diego LGBTQ+ scene (and a wonderfully supportive family), she found her way toward living authentically, and hasn’t looked back since. Well, except for the occasional fashion misstep. But who hasn’t? Amanda has been a keynote speaker, an award-winner, and yes, she’s even done some political lobbying (imagine her in a suit, making change and probably making a few people sweat). She’s got her eye on completing her Bachelor’s degree, having gender-affirming surgery with the legendary Dr. Bowers, and, who knows, maybe falling in love with a man who can appreciate a strong woman with a soft heart and a sarcastic streak. She's the kind of woman you instantly want to have coffee with, or wine, let’s be honest, and I was so thrilled to sit down with her for this interview. So let’s dive in!

Interview with Kalki Subramaniam

Kalki Subramaniam is a vibrant force in the world of transgender rights, art, and activism, a true trailblazer from Tamil Nadu, India. She’s a storyteller at heart, weaving her fierce spirit into everything she does: from founding the groundbreaking Sahodari Foundation that champions transgender visibility and empowerment, to publishing Sahodari, the first Tamil magazine created by and for transgender women. Born in the small town of Pollachi, Kalki was always a bright student, holding two master’s degrees, in Journalism and International Relations, yet her real education came from living her truth in a society that often struggles to accept difference.

 

For over a decade, Kalki has blended activism with creativity, using art, film, and literature to tell stories that most wouldn’t dare tell. She made waves as the lead actress in the Tamil film Narthagi, breaking barriers as one of India’s first transgender women to star in a mainstream movie. More than just an artist and activist, Kalki is an entrepreneur with a heart, her projects often center on uplifting underprivileged transgender women, helping them find a voice and a livelihood. Her journey is about more than personal triumph; it’s about opening doors for others, challenging norms, and creating spaces where transgender people can thrive with dignity. Meeting Kalki feels like sitting down with a wise sister who’s lived through fire and come out shining, with stories that inspire courage and a vision that promises change.

Interview with Dawn Flynn

Today, I have the heartfelt honor of introducing Dawn Flynn, a deeply inspiring transgender woman, author, pastor, and activist. Dawn serves as the pastor of New Life Metropolitan Community Church, an LGBT-affirming congregation in Charlotte, North Carolina. She is also the author of the powerful memoir “God Does Love Me: My Trans Journey to Finding My True Self” (2012), where she lovingly shares the story of her lifelong journey toward authenticity and spiritual awakening. From a young age, Dawn knew she was different, a tender moment trying on her grandmother’s clip-on earrings at the age of eight gave her a glimpse of her true self. But her path to womanhood was far from easy. For more than five decades, she hid that truth behind two marriages, raising two children, and trying to live as someone she wasn’t. In the end, it was love, for life, for others, and finally for herself, that gave her the strength to transition and become the woman she always was inside. Dawn underwent gender-affirming surgery in 2011 and has since dedicated her life to lifting others through her ministry, her writing, and her presence. Her voice is one of healing and hope in a world that too often turns away from those who are different. With grace and courage, she reminds us all that God’s love is for everyone, without exception. It’s with great joy and admiration that I welcome Dawn Flynn to this conversation.

Interview with Aneesh Sheth

Aneesh Sheth is a radiant force in the world of film, theatre, and activism, a woman whose journey is as courageous as it is inspiring. Born in Pune, India, and raised in New York City, Aneesh blends the richness of her Indian heritage with the vibrancy of American arts. She began performing at the tender age of seven, and over the years, carved a path for herself as an actress of grace and depth. You may recognize her from her roles in Outsourced, My Inner Turmoil, and Arbore, where she brought both authenticity and heart to the screen. But Aneesh is much more than her filmography. She is a passionate advocate for transgender rights, using her platform to challenge stereotypes and uplift her community. Her work with organizations like The Trevor Project and The Stigma Project speaks volumes about her commitment to saving lives and changing minds. 

 

Aneesh also made history by co-hosting The TransView, one of the first web-shows centering trans voices, proving she’s as comfortable at the mic as she is under stage lights. Her artistic talents are matched by her elegance, intelligence, and fierce compassion. Whether portraying the complexities of trans identity onstage, or mentoring others through their own transitions, Aneesh is driven by love, empathy, and a vision for a world where everyone can live as their most authentic self. Today, she lives in Seattle with her husband and continues to pursue bold, meaningful work in both performance and advocacy. It is my absolute pleasure and honor to bring you this conversation with Aneesh, a woman of beauty, strength, and unstoppable spirit.

Interview with Andi Dier

Andi Dier is a passionate young transgender woman and outspoken advocate from New York, known for her fearless voice on issues affecting the transgender community. Although she modestly resists the label of “activist,” Andi’s courage and clarity have made her a visible figure in conversations about trans rights, education, and representation. She brings a sharp, thoughtful perspective informed by her love of science, she’s a soon-to-be physics student, and a deep belief in rational discourse and social justice. Andi’s public profile rose after a widely publicized incident at a pub in Holbrook, where she was forcibly removed and misgendered, an experience that fueled her determination to speak out against transphobia. 

 

Her reflections on gender identity, media portrayals, and the challenges of transition are both raw and insightful. She admires figures like Chelsea Manning, Laverne Cox, and Laura Jane Grace, and views the current visibility of trans issues as both an opportunity and a call to action. Outside of activism, Andi is developing a YouTube series exploring science, politics, philosophy, and transgender issues with the same fierce intellect and empathy that guide her advocacy. She’s a fashion enthusiast with a love for punk-tinged hipster style and a self-proclaimed shopping addiction. Above all, Andi is driven by a deep love for life, learning, and the belief that trans girls are beautiful, because they are. In this candid interview, Andi opens up about her experiences, struggles, and hopes for a more inclusive future.

Interview with Tona Brown

Tona Brown is a remarkable artist whose life and music have become a beacon of hope and resilience. From an early age, she grappled with questions of identity, describing herself as “androgynous,” a blend of masculine and feminine. But at age ten, when she first picked up a violin, she found a sanctuary in music. Her talent blossomed at the Governor’s School for the Arts and later at Shenandoah Conservatory of Music, where she studied violin, voice, piano, and viola. There, she honed not only her technical skill but also the emotional depth that defines her performances. Every note she plays and every word she sings comes from a place of profound truth. Music gave her not only a career, but a way to tell her story when words fell short. 

 

Tona’s journey is one of both personal transformation and groundbreaking achievements. She was the first transgender woman to perform at Carnegie Hall and the first African American transgender woman to sing for a U.S. president, honoring Barack Obama at the 2014 LGBTQ Leadership Gala. Her mezzo-soprano voice and stirring violin work convey a lifetime of joy, pain, and hope. But beyond her accolades, she uses her platform to uplift others, especially transgender youth, encouraging them to dream boldly. Despite facing doubts, even from those who questioned her voice, Tona carved out a space where she could shine authentically. She is not only a gifted performer but also a fierce advocate for transgender rights, proving through both word and song that authenticity is a powerful force for change. In every performance and public appearance, Tona stands as a testament to perseverance and pride. Her artistry invites us to reflect not only on what it means to be talented, but also what it means to be human.

 

Monika: Hello, Tona! I’m absolutely thrilled to have the chance to chat with such a remarkable diva, you truly inspire me!

Tona: Hi, Monika! The pleasure is all mine. I’m so happy to connect with you and everyone who follows your wonderful work. 

Monika: You began your journey as a classical violinist but soon blossomed into a successful mezzo-soprano diva. Do you plan to continue embracing both paths, or have you already decided which direction your artistic future will take?

Tona: I would like to keep all options open because I enjoy making music no matter the genre or medium. Music IS my life! Every note I play or sing allows me to express different parts of my soul. I believe that exploring multiple musical avenues keeps my artistry fresh and vibrant. Ultimately, I want to remain open to wherever the music takes me, without limiting myself.

 

"Tona Brown singing at the Department
of Veteran Affairs" (YouTube)

 

Monika: Could you share a few words about your music career and what it means to you personally?

Tona: My decision to follow my dreams was the best decision of my life. As an artist, I can express feelings and thoughts that would be very difficult for me to convey in everyday life. Through my art, I release all frustrations and emote in ways that feel truly unimaginable. Music has become my sanctuary, a place where vulnerability turns into strength. Every performance is a journey that connects me deeply with myself and with others. It gives my life meaning and fills my heart with joy like nothing else can.

Monika: Despite critics claiming that a transgender woman could never sing mezzo-soprano, you have completely proven them wrong. How did you overcome those doubts and challenges along your journey?

Tona: I have, Monika, and the experience has been challenging, to say the least, especially finding the right teachers and a method that would suit my unique instrument. But I wouldn't trade these experiences for the world. They have made me a stronger person and even more determined to succeed. Every obstacle became a stepping stone, teaching me patience and resilience. I learned to trust my voice, not just the sound but the story it carries. In overcoming doubt, I found my true power and passion.
Monika: Are there any opera singers who inspire you deeply or whose performances you particularly admire?

Tona: I do. I enjoy listening to Shirley Verrett, Grace Bumbry, Deborah Voigt, Kathleen Battle, Leontyne Price, Marian Anderson, Reri Grist, Dolora Zajick, Mirella Freni, Beverly Sills, and Jessye Norman. Their voices have a timeless beauty that touches the soul and speaks to the heart of every listener. Each one brings something unique to the stage, whether it’s emotional intensity, technical brilliance, or pure passion. Listening to them has helped shape my own artistic voice and fueled my desire to keep growing as a performer.

Monika: One of the things I adore about opera divas is their flair for stunning gowns, makeup, and hairstyles. Do you enjoy embracing that glamorous, theatrical side of opera life?

Tona: I do. There is nothing more lovely than seeing a beautiful diva in a gorgeous gown! I believe I am a gown fanatic! lol But the primary attraction of opera for me has always been the gorgeous melodies and the challenges presented by the music and characters. And one cannot forget the incredible voices that bring the repertoire to life. Dressing up is a joyful extension of the artistry, it helps me step fully into the role and feel transformed. It’s not just about looking beautiful but embodying the spirit of the character I portray. The glamour and the music together create a magical experience both on stage and for the audience.

 

Time to let the Music talk and the BS walk
in 2014! Can the church say Amen!

 
Monika: You’ve toured extensively across the USA and Europe. Do you have plans to return to Europe soon, perhaps to bring your artistry back to those stages?

Tona: Yes, ever since I was a teenager attending the Governor’s School for the Arts, which is one of the best programs in the country for young artists, I have dreamed of returning to Europe. This time, I would love to go back as an adult, bringing my own matured perspective and experiences. My primary passion right now is to share the music of African American composers with the world. There are so many beautiful and powerful pieces for recital that the world hasn’t had the chance to truly hear, and to me, that feels like an injustice on many levels.

That’s why I decided to create an EP titled “This Is Who I Am” to showcase some of these hidden gems. This album is available on iTunes and CDBaby, and it’s just the first of many projects I have planned. I’m also excited to be singing with The Repertory Theatre of Washington later this year, playing the role of Zia Principessa in Suor Angelica, as requested by the opera director Jane Tavernier. Every new opportunity is a chance to grow as an artist and connect deeper with audiences everywhere.

Monika: Back in 2006, you were part of the groundbreaking Tranny Roadshow project. Could you tell us more about what that experience meant to you and what the project aimed to achieve?

Tona: The Tranny Roadshow project was an incredible experience, an opportunity to perform alongside and connect with talented transgender artists from across the US and Canada. Through that journey, I realized I was not alone as a transgender artist, and to me, that was the most powerful and affirming lesson of the entire tour. So many transgender artists feel discouraged from pursuing their dreams or sharing their creative work because of fears about how mainstream media or society might react. These fears are sadly justified, as we are often marginalized and told we don’t belong in the spotlight. 

But what a tremendous loss that is, not only for us but for the entire artistic community, when so many gifted voices are silenced or overlooked due to discrimination. That experience taught me the importance of visibility and the power we have to inspire others simply by being true to ourselves on stage and off. I carry that courage with me in every performance, hoping it can open doors for those who come after me.

Monika: What exciting projects are you currently working on? Are there any new artistic directions or collaborations that you’re particularly passionate about right now?

Tona: I am currently working on several projects, collaborating with various artists from different genres of music, which is incredibly inspiring and broadens my creative horizons. I love how blending styles challenges me to grow as an artist and express myself in fresh, unexpected ways. Alongside music, I am thrilled to be exploring acting, as I’m stepping into a new role on a TV series set to premiere on Netflix this year called City Lightz. This opportunity allows me to stretch my artistic wings beyond singing and connect with audiences in a whole new way. It’s been an exciting journey so far, and I can’t wait to see where it leads.

Monika: How does being a transgender artist shape your journey? Do your experiences as a transgender woman influence the way you approach your music and performances?

Tona: To me, being a transgender artist means having a unique opportunity to challenge and dispel the negative stereotypes about our community. While I don’t usually let my transgender identity be the primary factor when choosing musical roles or pieces, I do embrace projects within the LGBT community or chances to speak out as an activist. My main focus is always the music itself, the story it tells and the emotions it evokes. At the same time, my personal journey inevitably colors my interpretation and passion on stage, adding layers of depth and authenticity that audiences can feel. I hope my presence as a transgender artist inspires others to follow their dreams despite the challenges. Ultimately, music is a universal language, and I want to show that identity only enriches the art, never limits it.

 

With President Barack Obama, on the night Tona sung
"The Star-Spangled Banner" at the LGBT event in NYC.

 

Monika: How do you feel about the way transgender people and stories have been portrayed in films, media, and literature up to now? Do you think these portrayals have done justice to the complexity and humanity of transgender experiences?

Tona: I’m not a huge fan of how transgender people have traditionally been depicted in film and TV. Too often, transgender characters are portrayed as crazy, undesirable, or simply the butt of jokes. We’re frequently not taken seriously or shown with the depth and dignity we deserve. However, I am hopeful and confident that this is changing. As transgender activism gains visibility and more transgender artists gain access to meaningful roles, these stereotypes are being challenged and dismantled. We’re finally seeing stories that reflect the true diversity and richness of transgender lives. This shift not only benefits our community but also enriches the arts by introducing authentic voices and perspectives that have long been overlooked. 

Monika: When you were going through your transition, were there any transgender role models or figures you looked up to for inspiration and guidance? If not, how did you find the strength to navigate your journey without that kind of example?

Tona: Unfortunately, I did not have any transgender role models at that time. That lack of visible examples is part of why I chose to speak openly about my life and career in the media. I wanted to create a path for others who might feel alone, to show that it is possible to live authentically and succeed. Sharing my story became a way to connect with others and build a sense of community where few resources existed. It’s important for me to inspire hope and courage in those who are still searching for their own voices.

Monika: Coming out is a deeply personal and often challenging experience. What was the hardest part of coming out for you, especially considering the unique challenges you might face as an African American transgender woman in the performing arts?

Tona: The hardest part was knowing that, as an African American transgender woman, life would be at least three times harder. I also understood that I wouldn’t have the traditional career path that many of my colleagues enjoyed. But I was okay with that. As Shirley Verrett once advised me, “There are plenty of opportunities for us all, but YOU must find your own niche in this industry.” I feel very confident that I have found that niche and now enjoy a successful career. Over time, I learned to embrace my unique identity as a source of strength rather than limitation. The challenges fueled my determination to succeed and opened doors I hadn’t even imagined. Each obstacle became a stepping stone toward my growth, both as an artist and as a woman.

Monika: How do you see the current landscape for transgender women in American society? In what ways have things improved, and where do you feel there is still urgent work to be done?

Tona: It is still a struggle for American transgender women to gain acceptance and understanding. Yet, things are changing, and more trans women are developing phenomenal careers and opportunities that weren’t available just ten years ago. But there is no denying the challenges, struggles, and violence that transgender women around America face on a daily basis need to be addressed, and more work should be done to protect transgender Americans. I remain hopeful because the visibility and voices of transgender women are stronger than ever before. Community support networks and advocacy groups are making a tangible difference, but the fight for full equality and safety is far from over. It is vital that society continues to educate itself, dismantle prejudice, and create spaces where transgender women can thrive without fear.

Monika: Do you believe transgender rights represent the next crucial frontier in the broader fight for human rights? How does this struggle challenge societal norms and perceptions?

Tona: I feel it could be. To be transgender breaks all barriers related to gender, sexual orientation, and one’s general beliefs about what it means to be a man or a woman on a deeply personal level. This is another reason why violence against transgender people is so prevalent today. Our very existence makes some feel uncomfortable about who THEY are. It has very little to do with the person being attacked or called horrible names.

 

"Tona Brown as La Principessa" (YouTube)

 

One who is transgender has to be very strong and learn to pick their battles wisely and develop a greater understanding of why people sometimes treat you the way they do. Despite these challenges, the resilience and courage shown by transgender individuals continue to inspire social progress and empathy. Every time we stand up and live authentically, we chip away at ignorance and fear. I truly believe that advancing transgender rights is not only about justice for our community but about expanding humanity’s capacity for acceptance and love.

Monika: Are you actively involved in any political or advocacy campaigns? In your view, what role can transgender women play in shaping the future of politics and social justice?

Tona: Transgender women are absolutely imperative in the future of politics. I am very supportive of political campaigns and politicians who champion LGBT rights and work tirelessly to promote equality for all people. This is why I supported President Barack Obama and had the honor of singing the National Anthem at the LGBT Leadership Conference in New York City to honor him. It has been my pleasure to perform for many of the most progressive political leaders in our country. I believe our voices bring unique perspectives and strength to the political arena, highlighting issues that often go unnoticed. By stepping into leadership roles, transgender women can help shape policies that ensure justice and inclusion. Every effort counts in creating a society where everyone’s rights are respected and celebrated.
Monika: Many people still have mixed feelings about transgender beauty pageants. How do you personally view these competitions and their role in representing trans women in society?

Tona: I think beauty is beauty, no matter how you were born. Transgender models have been around since the beginning of time. Some of the most beautiful women on this planet are indeed transgender. These pageants give trans women a platform to express their strength, elegance, and individuality in a world that often tries to erase them. They help break down outdated standards of beauty and redefine femininity on our own terms. Most importantly, they provide visibility and inspire younger generations of trans individuals to celebrate who they are without shame.

Monika: Many transgender women choose to share their journeys through memoirs, offering insight and inspiration to others. Have you ever considered telling your own story in book form?

Tona: I have been offered the opportunity many times. I feel that I am too young to do so. One day I shall. Right now, I just want to live my life to the fullest and PERFORM! There are still so many chapters of my life waiting to be written, literally and figuratively. I believe that when the time is right, I’ll have a deeper perspective to offer. Until then, my story is best told on stage, through music, passion, and presence.

Monika: My pen-friend Gina Grahame once told me something that stuck with me: we shouldn't limit our potential based on how we were born or by what we see other transgender people doing. Our dreams shouldn't end on an operating table, that’s actually where they begin. Do you believe that our journeys as trans individuals can fuel, rather than hinder, our aspirations?

Tona: I totally agree. One of the problems in our community is that we want to be accepted so much that we tend to let go of our dreams quicker than the average person, out of fear of failure or success. If you have a goal, your goal has very little to do with your gender, sexuality, or identity. You must go for it with no distractions, wholeheartedly and unashamedly, if you want to be successful! We are not defined by our transitions, we are defined by our passions, our talents, and how boldly we chase our purpose. I've found that embracing who I am has given me even more strength to pursue what I love. When we live authentically, we unlock a kind of courage that pushes boundaries and breaks barriers.

Monika: Tona, thank you for the interview! 

Main photo credits to G. Gar Roberts of Gar Roberts Photography.
All the photos: courtesy of Tona Brown (unless specified otherwise).

© 2014 - Monika Kowalska

  

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Interview with Beth Horner

Beth Horner’s life story is a beautiful tapestry woven from courage, creativity, and a relentless pursuit of authenticity. Born in Afghanistan to a diplomat father and Dutch mother, Beth’s early years were marked by constant travel and a sense of rootlessness, never truly belonging to one place, yet quietly nurturing a deep, unspoken truth within her heart. From a young age, Beth experienced moments of clarity about who she truly was, even if the world around her seemed uncertain and unkind. It wasn’t until her early adulthood that she found her passion for bicycles, which became not just a career but a lifeline, grounding her amid the complexities of identity and self-discovery. Through design awards, technical books, and a thriving career in the bicycle industry, Beth has navigated the professional world with grace and determination. Her transition journey, courageous and deeply personal, unfolded amid this backdrop of professional success and personal challenges. 

 

With the support of thoughtful coworkers and management, Beth bravely embraced her true self openly at work, embodying the powerful message that authenticity can coexist with professional excellence. Music has been Beth’s creative refuge, a source of balance and joy during times of upheaval. Her story is not only about the challenges of living between genders but also about the triumph of self-love, resilience, and the pursuit of a fulfilled life. In this interview, Beth shares her reflections on identity, acceptance, the importance of role models, and her heartfelt advice to others navigating their own paths. Join us as we explore the inspiring journey of a woman who teaches us that living our truth is the greatest gift we can give ourselves, and the world.

Interview with Honey West

For more than two decades, Honey West has been captivating audiences with her dynamic performances, razor-sharp wit, and powerful voice. Since her 1990 debut in the one-woman show A Taste of Honey, she has become a beloved figure in Chicago’s cabaret scene and beyond. With two After Dark Awards for Outstanding Cabaret Entertainer and numerous other accolades to her name, Honey West has proven herself as both a musical powerhouse and a comedic gem. Her career has spanned an impressive array of stages, from intimate cabaret venues like Gentry and Hotel Allegro to large-scale performances at Park West and Cabaret Metro. She has performed on cruise ships, at awards shows, and for countless fundraisers supporting the LGBTQ+ community and AIDS organizations. Her talent has even led her to share the stage with icons,she appeared on Oprah as a backup singer for Cyndi Lauper, was crowned Ms. Morton Downey Jr. on the controversial host’s talk show, and even entertained Julie Andrews and the Victor/Victoria cast at their opening night gala.

 

Beyond cabaret, Honey West has left her mark on the theatrical world, starring in productions such as Vampire Lesbians of Sodom alongside her dear friend Alexandra Billings, Tony N’ Tina’s Wedding, Diva Diaries, The Musical, and Applause. Her fearless performances in groundbreaking shows like Dirty Dreams of a Clean-Cut Kid,one of the first musicals to address the AIDS epidemic,demonstrate her commitment to using art as a platform for change. She has also lent her talents to film, starring in Velvets, which was screened at the Chicago Lesbian & Gay International Film Festival, and recording the love theme for the Judy Tenuta film Butch Camp.

 

Honey West- Nearness of you (YouTube)

 

In addition to her artistic achievements, Honey West has been a dedicated advocate for LGBTQ+ rights. She has used her career not only to entertain but also to educate and break down barriers for trans performers. Her longtime friend and fellow performer Alexandra Billings once said, "Honey’s never said no to an AIDS benefit and never said no to a charity. She’s always been there, free of charge and giving in her spirit and her time." Her dedication to her community was officially recognized in 2012 when she was inducted into Chicago’s Gay and Lesbian Hall of Fame. Honey West’s journey has been one of resilience, reinvention, and authenticity. Starting as an entertainer, she eventually embraced her identity and transitioned at 41, proving that it is never too late to live as one’s true self. Her story is one of courage,turning obstacles into opportunities and transforming a once-overlooked identity into an unshakable force of artistic expression.

 

Monika: Hello Honey! Welcome to my blog!

Honey: Hi Monika!

Monika: Your career spans decades and multiple performance platforms. How would you introduce yourself to someone who has never heard of you before?

Honey: Sure, I have a degree in Musical Theater from Indiana University. I have been singing and acting professionally for the last 33 years. I traveled with cruise ships and resorts fresh out of college and finally settled in Chicago where I live now. Over the years, I’ve had the chance to perform in an incredible range of venues, from intimate cabaret settings to grand theatrical productions. Chicago became my creative home, where I’ve built a career blending comedy, music, and storytelling.

Monika: Was there a specific moment or experience that made you realize performing was your true calling, or was it something you always knew deep down?

Honey: [smiles] I don’t remember a time I didn’t dream about it. They say I came out of the womb humming a tune. As a kid, I was always putting on little shows for my family, using a hairbrush as a microphone. By the time I was in school, I was already sneaking into the theater department, watching rehearsals, and imagining myself on stage.

 

Honey West with Alexandra Billings (YouTube)

 

Monika: You've performed in many incredible places throughout your career. Could you share some of the most memorable venues and shows you've been a part of?

Honey: I got the chance as a young entertainer to live and work in Tahiti for American Hawaii Cruises. I still remember the beauty and the people fondly. In Chicago, I had a cabaret act that lasted for 13 years, and some of the people that I met during those years are still friends today. I also had the privilege of performing at Park West and Cabaret Metro, which were thrilling experiences. And of course, sharing the stage with icons like Cyndi Lauper on Oprah was an unforgettable highlight of my journey.
Monika: In addition to singing, you've also built a strong presence in the theater world. Was acting always part of your artistic vision, or did it come later in your career?

Honey: I have acted in many shows here in Chicago, and I am always looking for the next opportunity to join a new theater family. Theater has given me the chance to step into so many different lives and stories, which I find incredibly fulfilling. One of my favorite experiences was performing in Vampire Lesbians of Sodom alongside my dear friend Alexandra Billings, it was a wild and wonderful ride!

Monika: Many performers in the LGBTQ+ community, especially transgender women, take part in beauty pageants. Have you ever considered competing, or do you prefer to admire the art of pageantry from afar?

Honey: Well actually, I have never been in the pageant system. I stand amazed by the girls who do participate in pageants. The work and dedication they pour into a crown makes it well deserved. I’ve had the privilege of knowing and performing alongside some incredibly talented titleholders, and their grace and poise are truly inspiring. While I may not have a sash or crown of my own, I like to think I bring a little sparkle to the stage in my own way!

Monika: Confidence and beauty often go hand in hand, creating a sense of empowerment. Do you feel that your presence and charisma give you a certain influence, whether on stage or in everyday life?

Honey: Well, seriously, I never really thought of myself as beautiful. I was a late bloomer and always felt awkward. I have been known to flirt with a handsome man… lol. The rush and power that I feel in those moments are fantastic. But beyond looks, I think true empowerment comes from embracing who you are and owning your presence in any space. When I step on stage, I feel like I can command the room, not just with beauty but with energy and confidence.

Courtesy of Honey West.

Monika: During your transition, did you have any transgender role models or figures who inspired you, especially within the entertainment industry?

Honey: There are certainly many beautiful, strong trans women here in Chicago, but because I sang and acted, I didn’t feel the kinship with them that I would have liked. My best friend, Alexandra Billings, came from the pageant world and then went on to sing and act. She was my rock and support. As much support as I had in Chicago, I still did not identify as trans until I was 41 years old. I had it buried so deep I almost never found it… lol. Looking back, I realize how much visibility and representation truly matter. If I had seen more trans women in theater and cabaret when I was younger, I might have recognized myself sooner.

Monika: What was the hardest thing about your coming out, and how did you navigate the emotional and physical changes during that time?

Honey: Going through a second adolescence. My body changing and emotions flaring up. Adolescence was hard enough the first time around. Doing it again in my 40’s was no joke…lol. I felt like I was on an emotional rollercoaster, with everything being more intense than I had expected. It was both overwhelming and liberating to finally embrace my true self, but it wasn’t without its challenges.

Monika: What is your perspective on the current situation of transgender women in American society, especially in terms of media representation and social acceptance?

Honey: I am shocked about how quickly things are moving. It is so nice to see strong, smart, beautiful sisters in the media telling our collective truth. I am proud and humbled by their strength. However, I also recognize that while there is progress, there’s still so much work to be done to ensure that all transgender women, especially those of color, are seen and heard. It’s important that we keep pushing for visibility and equality, even as we celebrate our victories.

Monika: We are seeing more transgender women come out, and many of them are gaining recognition in their respective fields. From Lana Wachowski in film directing to Jenna Talackova in modeling, Kate Bornstein in academia, Laura Jane Grace in music, and Candis Cayne in acting, there seems to be a growing visibility. Are you also witnessing this trend and how does it make you feel?

Honey: I am so excited by these women and the way the world is embracing them. I never thought it would be possible to see this in my lifetime. Their visibility is so important for future generations, showing that it’s possible to be authentic and successful in whatever field you choose. It also sends a powerful message that transgender women can break barriers and thrive in society.

Monika: Do you think transgender rights could be the new frontier in the ongoing fight for human rights, similar to how the LGBTQ+ movement has gained momentum?

Honey: It already is. “Orange is the New Black” and Tran is the new gay…lol. Transgender rights are becoming more central to the conversation, and people are starting to recognize that our struggles are part of a broader human rights movement. As society evolves, the fight for equality and acceptance of transgender people will continue to be a key focus.

Monika: Are you involved in politics or any advocacy campaigns? Do you believe transgender women can play a significant role in shaping political change and policy?

Honey: Just recently I was asked to participate in the “March on Springfield” Illinois state capital. We were there to march for equality and gay marriage. I co-emceed the event and was very honored to do so. I have participated in almost every cause and charity that has come through Chicago in the last 20 some years. I believe that transgender women have a unique perspective and voice that can influence positive change in politics. As we become more visible, we are proving that our voices matter and can contribute to the broader fight for justice.

Courtesy of Honey West.

Monika: How important is love to you, and what challenges have you faced in finding it, particularly as a transgender woman?

Honey: I haven’t been as successful as I would like in that department. I am waiting for the guy who is not afraid to be with me in public. Unfortunately, men who love us have to go through their own coming out process. It can be frustrating, but I believe that true love takes time and mutual understanding. I’m hopeful that the right person will come along, someone who will embrace me for who I truly am, inside and out.

Monika: How would you describe your relationship with fashion? Are there any particular styles, colours, or trends you gravitate toward, and do you have any favorite outfits you wear regularly?

Honey: I love fashion but I depend on my friends to help me. I wish I had more of a flair myself. They say it takes a village… smile. I enjoy experimenting with bold colours and unique accessories, but I always feel more confident when I have a friend’s advice. Fashion is such a great form of self-expression, and I’m always looking for ways to step outside of my comfort zone.

Monika: Many transgender women have shared their stories through memoirs. Have you ever considered writing a book or creating another type of project to document your journey and experiences?

Honey: I have been writing my thoughts and ideas down for many years and I am looking to turn it into a theater piece about my journey and discovering my gender. It’s been a cathartic process, and I think a performance would allow me to connect with people in a unique and powerful way. I hope that by sharing my story, I can inspire others to embrace their truth and find strength in their own experiences.

Monika: What is your next step in your journey, and where do you envision yourself in the next 5-7 years, both personally and professionally?

Honey: I am putting together a new cabaret act with music that is original or that really touches me personally. It’s something I’ve been passionate about for a while, and I’m excited to share this new creative direction. In the next few years, I hope to continue growing as an artist and make a bigger impact with my performances, while also focusing on my personal growth and happiness.

Monika: What advice would you give to transgender women who are considering a career in the entertainment industry? Are there any key lessons you've learned along the way?

Honey: Most people who are successful in the entertainment field do it because they have to, not because they want to. If it is your passion, then run with it and never let someone crush your dreams. It's a tough industry, but the drive and determination to succeed will always carry you through. Stay true to your authentic self and don't be afraid to take risks, as they can often lead to the most rewarding opportunities.

Monika: Honey, thank you for the interview!

All the photos: courtesy of Honey West.

© 2014 - Monika Kowalska

 

Interview with Michelle Ann Farrell

Michelle Ann Farrell is an accomplished American independent filmmaker whose career reflects both creative versatility and personal resilience. She is best known for her work as Director of Photography (DP) on 17 feature films, including Safehouse (2008), Bigfoot at Holler Creek Canyon (2006), and On Top (2012). Her portfolio also includes writing, producing, and selling scripts, establishing her as a multifaceted professional in the film industry. Farrell's journey into filmmaking began at the age of 40 with her debut project, Franky's Heaven. Prior to this, she managed a wedding video business, which provided her with technical experience and equipment that she later utilized to transition into full-time film production. Notably, in 2004, she served as DP on JuJu and worked in the electrical department on The Derby Stallion, featuring Zac Efron, Bill Cobbs, and Billy Preston. 

 

In 2005, Farrell expanded her repertoire by participating in projects such as Smalltimore, Law & Disorder, Gray Matters, and the documentary Unraveling Michelle. The latter is a deeply personal and award-winning film that chronicles her own transition. Through this documentary, Farrell aims to challenge ignorance and prejudice, using her personal narrative as a form of activism. Farrell identifies as a filmmaker who happens to be transgender, emphasizing that her gender identity does not define her artistry. She is currently developing a new feature film titled Potato Girl, which features a predominantly transgender team, including DP Rachel Dunn, investor Mara Drummond, and actress Ashley Sky. Farrell views this project as a testament to the presence and pride of transgender individuals in the film industry. While not actively involved in politics, Farrell considers her work, particularly Unraveling Michelle, as a form of political expression. She advocates for visibility and acceptance of transgender individuals, believing in the transformative power of love and creativity, asserting that embracing one's true self is essential for personal fulfillment and societal progress.

Interview with Grishno

Before we dive into today's conversation, I want to introduce you to someone who has been a beacon of courage, visibility, and resilience in the transgender community for nearly two decades. Her name is Erin Armstrong, though many know her online as Grishno, and she is not only a video blogger, activist, and educator but also a woman who has touched countless lives simply by being fearlessly and authentically herself. Raised in a small Utah town where difference wasn’t exactly embraced, Erin knew from an early age that her path wouldn’t follow the one others had planned for her. At the age of 20, she made the life-changing decision to transition, facing both love and loss in the process. In 2006, she took another brave step, this time into the public eye, by documenting her transition on YouTube. At a time when few transgender stories were told openly, her voice rang out across the digital void, reminding others that they weren’t alone. 

 

Her videos were more than personal diary entries, they were lifelines for people searching for connection, clarity, and hope. Over the years, Erin has shared her journey with honesty, humor, and a grounded wisdom that continues to inspire. Whether speaking at rallies, mentoring young trans people, or running HIV testing programs for transgender women of color, she has always chosen to lead with heart. Today, Grishno is not just a woman who transitioned, she is a woman who transforms. A passionate advocate for LGBTQ+ rights, a visionary leader aiming to launch her own non-profit, and a fierce believer in community, she embodies the grace and grit of a new generation of changemakers. So, grab a cup of tea, settle in, and meet the remarkable woman behind the camera.

Interview with Ashley Jones

With warmth, candor, and a signature spark of resilience, Ashley Jones has become a guiding light for many in the transgender community. At just 23, this radiant young woman from the Seattle area is not only embracing her truth but sharing it with thousands through her heartfelt and honest YouTube channel. Born to Russian and Ukrainian parents and raised in a deeply religious environment, Ashley’s early life was shaped by the struggle to understand and express her authentic self in the face of rigid expectations and internal conflict. Yet, it was in the darkest moments, when the weight of her dysphoria nearly silenced her spirit, that Ashley discovered the power of choosing to live, not just survive. Her decision to transition marked the beginning of a remarkable transformation, not only in her body and mind but in her mission. 

 

Today, Ashley shares her journey not to seek validation, but to offer hope. She speaks openly about the highs and lows of transition, the joy of watching her reflection finally mirror her soul, and the profound satisfaction of helping others who feel lost in their own journeys. A lover of EDM, anime, gaming, and fashion, Ashley brings a vibrant and multidimensional energy to everything she does. Whether she’s rocking out in her room or lifting others up online, she reminds us all that femininity is as much about compassion and courage as it is about eyeliner and soft skin. Fiercely passionate about transgender rights, mental health, and self-acceptance, Ashley dreams of becoming a gender therapist one day, someone who can say, “I’ve been there, and I understand.” In this intimate conversation, Ashley opens her heart to share the struggles, revelations, and triumphs that have shaped her journey. Her story is not just about becoming a woman, it’s about becoming herself, unapologetically.

Interview with Erica Elizabeth Ravenwood

Erica Elizabeth Ravenwood is a storyteller whose journey speaks softly through music, imagery, and raw truth. Rather than speak directly into a camera, she lets her videos breathe with emotion and memory, an artistic collage of a life that has known both profound pain and quiet triumph. Born in 1965, Erica came of age in a time when the words and support systems for transgender youth were nearly nonexistent. Yet even in those isolating decades, she held onto a spark of magic, from childhood afternoons in her mother’s kitchen to the awe of watching Star Wars light up the screen at age 12. A former Army scout and Gulf War veteran, Erica has lived many lives, each one shaped by resilience and a longing to be seen as she truly is. Her transition, documented with candor and care on YouTube, began in earnest in the early 2000s, following a harrowing chapter of struggle and survival. Her videos emerged not as declarations, but as acts of healing, soft declarations of truth meant to uplift others in similar shoes.

 

Erica is also a mother, a proud grandparent, and, in her own words, probably the coolest “Grandpa” ever. She is fiercely open about her identity, no longer burdened by the need to “pass,” and embraces being a visible, vocal transgender woman. Her life hasn’t followed a traditional script, but it has been marked by deep introspection, courage, and grace. Whether recalling her gentle moments with her mom and grandmother or navigating the trauma of schoolyard cruelty and adult misdiagnosis, Erica shares her truth with striking vulnerability and wit. This is a conversation with a woman who has carried pain and turned it into purpose, a beautiful testament to the strength it takes to live authentically.

Interview with Mayra Viamonte

In a world where visibility can be both a shield and a sword, Mayra Viamonte stands tall, with humor, intelligence, and unapologetic honesty. A Brazilian video blogger, professional translator, and proudly bigender woman, Mayra has made space for herself in the digital landscape, documenting her transition not only as a form of self-expression but as an act of quiet rebellion and public education. Through her candid storytelling and relatable charm, she invites others to learn, reflect, and laugh along the way. Mayra lives in Rio de Janeiro, a city known for its colorful contradictions, much like the journey of gender itself. She is engaged to a wonderful cisgender woman who, as Mayra lovingly puts it, is the person without whom she would be nothing. Her femininity doesn’t conform to society’s rigid ideals, nor does it need to. 

 

Whether she’s critiquing beauty pageants, reflecting on childhood solitude, or sharing her fashion favorites (including her beloved flare jeans and cropped tops), Mayra radiates confidence in a way that transcends binaries. She speaks openly about the joys and trials of her hormone therapy, the complexity of being seen as a woman in a misogynistic society, and the raw truth behind Brazil’s trans realities. Yet through it all, she remains fiercely optimistic, grounded in love, and unafraid to speak her truth, even when it challenges convention. In this interview, you’ll meet a woman who doesn’t just transition her body, but transforms the way we think about gender, resilience, and what it means to live honestly. Mayra Viamonte is not just a voice from Brazil, she’s a voice for anyone searching for strength in authenticity.